12 Things to Look for in a Great Wellness Coach

by Maria Koropecky, Wellness Coach

Are you interested in healing a health concern in your life? Would you like to work with a Wellness Coach? If yes, you may also be wondering, “How on earth am I going to find a qualified wellness coach” and “where do I start?”

When "I" is replaced with "we" even illness becomes wellness.

First, to find a qualified Wellness Coach, do an online search using the keywords “wellness coach” and “your city.” You might also like to add the words, “best” and “near me.”

Also, ask your friends and co-workers for a referral — maybe they know of someone who does a good job.

With today’s technology, you don’t necessarily have to live in the same city or area as your Wellness Coach, but scheduling appointments is much easier when you live in the same time zone.

Another good idea is to keep an eye out for upcoming live wellness-related workshops, talks, and events in your area. Hearing a Wellness Coach speak is a great way to preview their professional style and area of focus and it’s a wonderful chance to meet likeminded people, too!

Come up with a list of at least three names, (my brother told my mother to find three bids on her home renovations and I think that’s good advice when you’re thinking about hiring any professional services).

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Once you have your list, take the time to review their websites and then call them to see if you can set up a consultation appointment to meet them — either through online video, by phone, or in person — to see what they’re all about.

Consultation Appointment

As you’re meeting with a prospective Wellness Coach, look to see if they have the following qualities:

  1. Interpersonal skills: Do they make you feel comfortable? Do they establish a good connection with you? Do you like them enough to spend time with them?
  2. Communication skills: Are they explaining their work in a way that makes sense? Are they actively listening to what you have to say?
  3. Professional: Are they presenting themselves in a professional manner? Do they take pride in their appearance?
  4. Caring Personality: Do they have a friendly, calm, patient, and caring nature?
  5. Practice Self-Care: Are they walking their talk, practicing what they preach, and taking good care of themselves?
  6. Empathetic and Compassionate: Can you tell if they have an understanding of what it’s like to be in your shoes?
  7. Knowledgeable: Are they knowledgeable in their field of practice?
  8. Self Confidence: Do they know their own value and the value of their coaching services? Are they assertive enough? Are they good at solving problems and making decisions?
  9. Physical Stamina: Do they have the energy and stamina needed to keep up with the demands of their profession?
  10. Flexibility: Are they willing to be flexible to accommodate your needs?
  11. Trustworthy: Do they come across as honest, trustworthy, respectful, and reliable?
  12. Like their work: Do they enjoy what they do for a living and do they genuinely smile often?

Hopefully, you’ll have a check mark next to all of the above. Feel free to add you’re your own preferences to this list as well. You’ll also want to keep your eye out for any of the following red flags:

Red Flags

  1. Distracted by drama: Are they focusing on you, the client, or are they busy with something else?
  2. Closed Communication: Is it hard to reach them by phone or email? Are they dismissive or rude?
  3. Burnout: Are they showing signs of fatigue, depression, stress, and burn out?
  4. Frazzled: Are they unkempt? Are they organized? Are they running late?
  5. Arrogance & Snobbiness: Is their nose in the air? Is their ego in the way?
  6. Judginess: Do they make you feel bad about yourself by judging your appearance, age, state of health, lifestyle choices, marital status, etc?
  7. Exorbitant Fees or Bargain Pricing: Are their coaching fees in line with other life coaches and wellness coaches or are they way too low or way too high for the market?
  8. Gut Instinct: Do you have a bad feeling when you’re talking to them?

If the consultation goes well, go ahead and book your coaching sessions. But if any of these red flags show up, then go with the person you feel will help you the most.

Taking the time to arrange a consultation appointment and meeting a prospective wellness coach on the phone or in person is a great way to see if you click before you make any long-term commitments.

Working with a talented Wellness Coach is definitely worth the investment and I hope you find a great Wellness Coach who ticks all of the boxes!

Wellness Coach Maria Koropecky.

And, if you’d like to meet me, Maria, for a complimentary consultation appointment to see if you’d like to work with me as a Wellness Coach, I’m currently offering Free Crystal Mapping Sessions. If you’re interested, please call or email me. I’d be happy to meet you online or in person (if you live in Victoria, BC) at your convenience.

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Love this Song! Thanks, Natasha!

Unwritten, Natasha Bedingfield

I am unwritten, can’t read my mind, I’m undefined
I’m just beginning, the pen’s in my hand, ending unplanned
Staring at the blank page before you
Open up the dirty window
Let the sun illuminate the words that you could not find
Reaching for something in the distance
So close you can almost taste it
Release your inhibitions

Feel the rain on your skin
No one else can feel it for you
Only you can let it in
No one else, no one else
Can speak the words on your lips
Drench yourself in words unspoken
Live your life with arms wide open
Today is where your book begins
The rest is still unwritten
Oh, oh, oh

I break tradition, sometimes my tries, are outside the lines
We’ve been conditioned to not make mistakes, but I can’t live that way
Staring at the blank page before you
Open up the dirty window
Let the sun illuminate the words that you could not find
Reaching for something in the distance
So close you can almost taste it
Release your inhibitions

Feel the rain on your skin
No one else can feel it for you
Only you can let it in
No one else, no one else
Can speak the words on your lips
Drench yourself in words unspoken
Live your life with arms wide open
Today is where your book begins
The rest is still unwritten

Staring at the blank page before you
Open up the dirty window
Let the sun illuminate the words that you could not find
Reaching for something in the distance
So close you can almost taste it
Release your inhibitions

Feel the rain on your skin
No one else can feel it for you
Only you can let it in
No one else, no one else
Can speak the words on your lips
Drench yourself in words unspoken
Live your life with arms wide open
Today is where your book begins
The rest is still unwritten
The rest is still unwritten
The rest is still unwritten
Oh, yeah, yeah

Songwriters: Danielle A. Brisebois / Natasha Anne Bedingfield / Wayne Steven Jr Rodrigues
Unwritten lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC

Unwritten
“The rest is still unwritten…”

I’ve adopted Unwritten as my own personal theme song for this year. It’s so upbeat and fun and inspiring and the video makes me smile.

I’m going to sing this song to myself whenever I like! Maybe even dance a little, too!

I’ve always liked this song, first released in 2004, even though it made me a little uncomfortable — I didn’t quite get it — but now some of the lines really jump out at me.

“Open up the dirty window” — it’s like, let some fresh air into your past and let it breathe.

“So close you can almost taste it” — I feel like I’m on the verge of a breakthrough and it’s within reach.

“Release your inhibitions” — that’s about accepting yourself as you are and just going for it.

“No one else can feel it for you” — you can’t look outside of yourself for validation or live vicariously through other people.

“Live your life with arms wide open” — that’s about surrender.

“Today is where your book begins” — You can only create from here, the present moment.

“The rest is still unwritten” — Endless possibilities.

Wow. That’s a really powerful song!

Wouldn’t it be wonderful to be able to live your life as your most authentic and vulnerable self — no shame, no inhibitions, no fear, and be able to connect with other living beings on a genuinely deep level — no egos, no games, no agendas — just being and letting things unfold naturally?

How refreshing is that?

Crystal Mapping Sessions

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Let’s Get Creative!

by Maria Koropecky, Wellness Coach

I feel like I’m in a really fertile and creative time in my life. I’ve been doing a lot of writing, baking, and drawing and I have all kinds of artistic ideas that I’d like to explore. My biggest intention is to attempt a painting technique called, “Acrylic Pouring.”

acrylic paint set.
Acrylic paint set photo by Maria Koropecky.

Acrylic pouring or fluid painting is all about pouring paints onto a canvas and letting the colours mix together and create their own unique patterns. The end results can be quite stunning and I don’t think it’s possible to re-create the same painting twice. It looks like it would be totally up my alley.

Before I take the plunge and try my hand at acrylic pouring, I’ve been watching all kinds of YouTube videos and purchasing supplies. As simple as this technique looks, there’s so much to learn and so many different styles to choose from.

To make things easier, I’ve also made a list of steps that will might help get the creative juices flowing. Perhaps talking about art and creativity will inspire you to create your own masterpieces.

Regardless of what kind of creative project you’re working on, whether it’s a new business, renovating your house, planning your summer vacation, planting a garden, writing a blog post, or painting paintings like I am, remember to have fun!

If you approach anything as if you’re working on an art project like you would in school, it will make the process so much more enjoyable and your final product will likely turn out better.

blank sketch book.
Blank page in a sketch book photo by Maria Koropecky.

So here are 25 my steps to creating!

  1. Get an assignment including: due date, budget, guidelines, and special requests.
  2. Brainstorm options. What wants to emerge? Jot some ideas into a journal or sketchbook. If you end up drawing a blank, step away from your project and do something else for a little while (like take a walk outside). Once the ideas start popping into your head, go back to your canvas right away.
  3. Inspiration, Idea, & Vision – What’s your idea? Have a clear vision of what you want to create. Make a decision about the direction you want to go in. Know your “Big Why.”
  4. Take your idea as far as you can while also being open to sudden bursts of delightful surprises – that’s part of the fun of creativity.
  5. Commit and make this project your priority. Prepare your materials and your work station. Change your clothes if necessary. Don’t give into your excuses.
  6. Is this a solo project or collaboration? Ask yourself, “Who do I need to talk to about this?” and then talk to them. Note: When working on a creative project, friends, parents, teachers, and others can guide from their wisdom, but they can’t do the assignment for you. Don’t let them take over.
  7. Start from a blank canvas. Don’t work with leftovers and don’t skip steps. A blank canvas is where all possibilities exist.
  8. Create from a place of gratitude. Affirm: “I’m so happy, grateful, and relieved now that I’ve created this wonderful…”
  9. Create from a place of joy, love, relaxation, and trust.
  10. Ask yourself, “Who am I being as I’m working on this project?” and “Who am I becoming?”
  11. Be present. Focus on what you’re doing. Tune into your senses. Remember to breathe. Drink a glass of water. Play some music. Follow your intuitive guidance.
  12. Enjoy the creative process and the journey. The end results are secondary (or not significant) because the means justify the ends.
  13. Be generous – don’t hold back.
  14. Accept any mistakes – these may be happy accidents. It’s not about perfection.
  15. Forgive everyone everything. Let go of your past grievances because otherwise they may negatively affect your work. Be kind and helpful to everyone you meet on your path.
  16. Surrender your ego and let God show the way. Don’t force the outcome or insist on your plan.
  17. Quiet your mind and ask, “What steps would be best for me to take next?” Let the answers come.
  18. Get to work! Put something on the canvas. Take action and do the steps in their natural order. Work quickly and efficiently. Clean as you go.
  19. You’re free to do what you want. Push yourself beyond your comfort zone. Break some rules and colour outside the lines. And like children when they’re making mud pies, don’t be afraid to get your hands dirty!
  20. Consider any feedback. Make notes in your journal about what you’re doing. Notice any unexpected signs and synchronicities that may be showing up in other parts of your life.
  21. If you end up making a muddy mess, that’s OK. Just say, “So what, what’s next?” and start a new canvas. Remember that whatever happens is OK.
  22. Keep going until the bell rings.
  23. Share your creations with others.
  24. Your own feelings about your work and performance are more important than someone else’s evaluation, judgement, and opinion. It’s not about the grade, winning the competition, what anyone else is doing, or the final sale price. Ask yourself, “What’s the gift or the lesson from this art project?”
  25. Meditate, rest, and sleep well so you can do it all again the next day.
sketching crystal heart logo in book.
Sketching crystal heart logo photo by Maria Koropecky.

Well, that’s my list of steps to creating something that has never existed before.

Would you like to create something new in your life, too?

Think about what you want to be, do, have, or give, and then go and create them!

And share your insights and creations in the comments below! I hope to show you my own art soon!

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The Top 1970’s TV Shows that Influenced my Life

On Friday nights, back in the 1970’s, when I was a kid growing up in Nova Scotia, I used to love opening up the hide-a-bed, popping a bowl of popcorn, choosing a bottle of pop from the Poppe Shoppe, and watching the TV show, Donny & Marie.

top 1970's tv shows that influenced my life.

Maybe you can relate to the days when TV’s were:

  • square,
  • when they were either black & white or colour,
  • when they had rabbit ears that never quite sat in the right place for best reception,
  • when you had to turn a chunky dial to change channels,
  • when remote controls were a luxury and some even attached to the TV with a chord,
  • when there were only three major networks,
  • when there was only one TV in the house, and
  • your parents said, “Don’t sit too close to the TV or you’ll hurt your eyes.”

If you can remember those days, you’re probably a Gen-Xer (born between 1961 and 1981) like me.

When I think back on all of the TV shows I used to watch when I was a kid, I’m struck by how inspiring many of them were.

I have a CD of TV show theme songs which I listen to every now and then when I need a little pick me up. How can you not feel better when you hear, “Who can turn the world on with her smile…” or “Well, we’re movin’ on up…”?

Yes, listening to music is part of practicing self-care and I like to call it, “Music and Sound Therapy.”

The theme song lyrics are really empowering, especially for women, who were breaking new ground in those days and the messages are just as powerful today!

I believe these TV shows from the 1970’s shaped my values and my dreams and expanded my ideas of what was possible for me to do in my life!

My Favourite 1970’s TV Shows

  1. Donny & Marie
  2. the Carol Burnett Show
  3. the Mary Tyler Moore Show
  4. the Brady Bunch
  5. Wonder Woman
  6. the Bionic Woman
  7. Charlie’s Angels
  8. Happy Days
  9. Laverne & Shirley
  10. The Love Boat
  11. Bewitched
  12. Little House on the Prairie

I know these TV shows might be a little cheesy and campy in today’s world, but that’s part of their charm. I, personally, appreciate their wholesome inclinations.

As you may have noticed, these TV shows, in their own way, are all about striving to have a better life, regardless of your humble beginnings.

All it takes is a little love, creativity, imagination, resourcefulness, smarts, physical fitness, a sense of adventure, a sense of humour, and close friends and family!

How about you? What are some of your favourite TV shows from your childhood? Please leave a comment and share your memories.

If you also watched and enjoyed many of the TV shows I mentioned (though of course there are many more) when you were in elementary school, please contact me.

Perhaps I can help you navigate this next chapter of your life as you approach perimenopause and menopause. Yes, Gen-Xers are currently in our 40’s and 50’s and that’s worth celebrating!

Let’s continue to carry the torch of empowerment and keep running the good race!

Wellness Coach Maria Koropecky.

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How to Save an Extra $1378 this Year

by Maria Koropecky, Wellness Coach

Since we’re heading into a new year, I thought it would be nice to share a system to save an extra $1378 in 52 weeks.

Who couldn’t use an extra $1378 in their pocket one year from now?

piggy bank.
Matthew Henry, photographer

52-Week Money Challenge

It’s called the 52-Week Money Challenge.

You may have come across this 52-Week Money Challenge system before and you may have thought it was a good idea, but for some reason you didn’t follow through. Well, it’s a new year and a new you so let’s give it another try together!

And if you have managed to save money with this challenge in previous years, please let us know in the comments and share your tips on how to be a successful saver!

In my coaching conversations, I talk about practicing self-care often and saving money is part of a healthy Financial Self-Care plan. I highly recommend getting into the habit of paying yourself first and tucking away some money for your future!

Anyway, I’m planning to follow this 52-week Money Savings Challenge myself each week for the next 12 months and I’m inviting you to join me. It’ll be fun!

Instructions

There are 3 different ways that you can participate in this 52-Week Money Savings Challenge so don’t feel like you have to follow it to the original letter (Option #1) to be successful.

Option #1 — Original Method

  • Week: 1, Deposit: $1, Account Balance: $1
  • Week: 2, Deposit: $2, Account Balance: $3
  • Week: 3, Deposit: $3, Account Balance: $6
  • Week: 4, Deposit: $4, Account Balance: $10
  • Week: 5, Deposit: $5, Account Balance: $15
  • Week: 6, Deposit: $6, Account Balance: $21
  • Week: 7, Deposit: $7, Account Balance: $28
  • Week: 8, Deposit: $8, Account Balance: $36
  • Week: 9, Deposit: $9, Account Balance: $45
  • Week: 10, Deposit: $10, Account Balance: $55
  • Week: 11, Deposit: $11, Account Balance: $66
  • Week: 12, Deposit: $12, Account Balance: $78
  • Week: 13, Deposit: $13, Account Balance: $91
  • Week: 14, Deposit: $14, Account Balance: $105
  • Week: 15, Deposit: $15, Account Balance: $120
  • Week: 16, Deposit: $16, Account Balance: $136
  • Week: 17, Deposit: $17, Account Balance: $153
  • Week: 18, Deposit: $18, Account Balance: $171
  • Week: 19, Deposit: $19, Account Balance: $190
  • Week: 20, Deposit: $20, Account Balance: $210
  • Week: 21, Deposit: $21, Account Balance: $231
  • Week: 22, Deposit: $22, Account Balance: $253
  • Week: 23, Deposit: $23, Account Balance: $276
  • Week: 24, Deposit: $24, Account Balance: $300
  • Week: 25, Deposit: $25, Account Balance: $325
  • Week: 26, Deposit: $26, Account Balance: $351
  • Week: 27, Deposit: $27, Account Balance: $378
  • Week: 28, Deposit: $28, Account Balance: $406
  • Week: 29, Deposit: $29, Account Balance: $435
  • Week: 30, Deposit: $30, Account Balance: $465
  • Week: 31, Deposit: $31, Account Balance: $496
  • Week: 32, Deposit: $32, Account Balance: $528
  • Week: 33, Deposit: $33, Account Balance: $561
  • Week: 34, Deposit: $34, Account Balance: $595
  • Week: 35, Deposit: $35, Account Balance: $630
  • Week: 36, Deposit: $36, Account Balance: $666
  • Week: 37, Deposit: $37, Account Balance: $703
  • Week: 38, Deposit: $38, Account Balance: $741
  • Week: 39, Deposit: $39, Account Balance: $780
  • Week: 40, Deposit: $40, Account Balance: $820
  • Week: 41, Deposit: $41, Account Balance: $861
  • Week: 42, Deposit: $42, Account Balance: $903
  • Week: 43, Deposit: $43, Account Balance: $946
  • Week: 44, Deposit: $44, Account Balance: $990
  • Week: 45, Deposit: $45, Account Balance: $1035
  • Week: 46, Deposit: $46, Account Balance: $1081
  • Week: 47, Deposit: $47, Account Balance: $1128
  • Week: 48, Deposit: $48, Account Balance: $1176
  • Week: 49, Deposit: $49, Account Balance: $1225
  • Week: 50, Deposit: $50, Account Balance: $1275
  • Week: 51, Deposit: $51, Account Balance: $1326
  • Week: 52, Deposit: $52, Account Balance: $1378

Option #2 — Random Method

Option #2 uses the same chart as above, but instead of following the incremental order as outlined, you can pick any amount from the list and deposit that amount during any given week. You may want to get some of the bigger ones out of the way early so they don’t all pile up at the end and stop your progress. Just remember to check them off as you go!

Option #3 — Equal Installments Method

Option #3 is perhaps the easiest option of the them all. Some people stop doing the 52-Week Savings Challenge part-way through because they forget which week they’re on and how much they’re supposed to deposit at that time.

The answer is depositing the same amount into your savings account each week, every week. No pressure, no guesswork. In this case, if you still want to go for having an extra $1378 at the end of the year, just deposit $26.50 each week (or $1378/52 weeks) like clockwork for 52 straight weeks!

Whatever option you choose, have some fun with this. Remember you’re a creative and resourceful human being — you can find this extra cash if you keep your eyes open!

But if you happen to miss some weeks, that’s OK. Just pick up where you left off and keep going. Even a fraction of the $1378 is better than nothing!

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Tips to Save Money

First of all, in order to start saving money on a regular basis, it’s important to have a safe place to keep your cash. You can open up a designated Savings account at your bank. You can also save your cash in a special jar at home.

Just make sure you know your opening balance in your Savings account or piggy bank before you start adding cash so you know your starting point and then watch your savings grow from there!

Some experts suggest moving 10% of your paycheques into your savings account each time you get paid before you spend it anywhere else. You can set this up automatically with your bank.

You can also slide a certain dollar amount or percentage over to your savings account every time you use your debit card.

Also, if you get paid in tips, (which is free money in a way) try salting those coins and dollar bills away instead of spending them.

Another savings trick is to pay cash for everything. It’s old school but it may help you be more conscious of where you’re spending your money and how much you have on hand. Also, anytime you have some change leftover from your cash purchases, set it aside as well!

With cash, you also save your money because you’re not paying interest charges on top of the original purchase price for years on end on your credit cards. Why pay unnecessary bank charges?

Another savings tip comes after you buy something on sale. You know how your receipt often says, “You saved X-amount of dollars on your purchase?” Well, if you want, you can quickly move that same X-amount of dollars into your Savings account right after your shopping trip and actually save the money before you spend it on something you don’t really need. And then you’ve actually saved the money the store said you did!

If you’re starting with me today, you have until end of day on Saturday, January 5, 2019 to make your first deposit. Of course, you can start this anytime of year.

During this first week, think about what you’d like to do with your cash in 365 days. Knowing the why behind your effort and commitment to saving your money will help you stay focussed on your goals.

So, what is your intention for saving this money?

  • Are you saving money to go on a trip?
  • Are you paying for your own upcoming wedding?
  • Are you planning to put the cash towards a downpayment on a house or car?
  • Are you thinking of investing in yourself by going back to school or signing up for a coaching program?
  • Do you want to give this money as a gift to someone else?

Whatever you do, don’t say you’re saving money “for a rainy day” because that’s too vague and you’ll just end up creating a bunch of rainy days.

Save for something you’re excited about having one day. In our culture, we’re all about getting instant gratification but I invite you to train yourself to think beyond instant gratification and strive for the long-term. That’s what savings is all about!

Also, please resist the temptation to withdraw from your Savings Account before the end of the year! Keep it to DEPOSIT ONLY!

Add some Sparkle to this Savings Challenge

Also, as a bonus option, if you want to add some sparkle to your 52-week money savings challenge, you can:

  • Create a Pinterest Board or Vision Board
  • Say affirmations like, “My Savings account is growing and growing each day.”
  • Wear crystal jewellery such as Amazonite, Amber, Bloodstone, Citrine, Garnet, Green Aventurine, Jade, Morganite, Peridot, and Tiger’s Eye to remind yourself of your goals.
  • Use cloves as an essential oil and in cooking because it helps with prosperity.

Please let me know if you’d like to participate in this challenge and we can help each other stay on track. I’m looking forward to celebrating with you at the end of the year next year!

Good luck! Maria

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When Beliefs Become Corrupted

by Maria Koropecky, Wellness Coach

As I was scrolling through my Facebook feed the other day, I came across this classic Mr. Bean video my friend had posted.

It’s from the Merry Christmas Mr. Bean TV episode where Mr. Bean can’t resist playing with a Christmas-themed display at a department store.

Here’s the clip from Merry Christmas Mr. Bean (1992) that I’m talking about.

The familiar Christmas scene starts off in a manger where the father, (Joseph), and mother, (Mary), are shushing the animals so they don’t wake the newborn baby, (Jesus). BTW, shushing animals is funny all by itself.

As more and more characters (who are obviously not from Bethlehem, 2000+ years ago) make their entrance and disrupt the peace and quiet, mayhem ensues and you’ve got a dinosaur, a robot, an angel, and a helicopter, and others, in the mix.

It’s a pretty ridiculous collection of misfits converging on a simple nativity scene, but still, it’s good, old-fashioned Christmas humour at its finest!

Anyway, as I was watching Mr. Bean move the toy figurines around the manger, I thought, as with all good art and comedy, there’s a deeper truth here at play.

Sure, Mr. Bean is like a child playing with his toys where imagination wins over standard rules of logic and historical accuracy — that’s wonderful! We should all dip into that well every now and then.

But underneath all of that, he’s pointing to… of all things… beliefs.

A belief is an idea that a person holds to be true and important.

And this video shows just how easily beliefs can escalate and get out of hand and not make sense anymore and if that’s the case, are they really worth defending so strongly?

Beliefs come up in coaching conversations all of the time. Beliefs, which include the stories we tell ourselves and the way we think, can significantly help us or hinder us in our lives. 

In coaching, we identify beliefs that may be interfering with what our clients are trying to accomplish and then help clear them out of the way. If you become aware of your beliefs, then you can change them for something better.

Beliefs can be very stubborn and to us, in our mind and experience, our own beliefs make perfect, logical sense. The more we repeat them, the more we believe them, and the more evidence we collect to confirm them.

Every now and then we have to take a look at our own beliefs to see if they’re still serving us. Perhaps in childhood, they served a purpose to help us survive, but now in adulthood, they’re interfering with our life and dreams for the future.

If you can take a look at the original belief before it took on a life of it’s own and got distorted and corrupted by other “ideas,” you can consciously choose to keep it or let it go — no tinkering or embellishments needed.

If the basic, original version still works, keep it, but if it no longer holds water and has become too complicated and corrupted, let it go.

The English major in me can see how Mr. Bean’s nativity sketch is actually a clever metaphor for how our personal beliefs get out of hand.

To Mr. Bean, building a nativity scene and adding sheep, army tanks, and Buckingham Palace Guards was a fun game with a beginning, middle, and ending and if you had managed to suspend your disbelief, the story would have been entertaining. But to the grouchy store clerk, the story was absurd and preposterous!

Your idea or belief may start off easy enough, (like a manger scene) and then all of a sudden, more and more stuff gets added to the story, stuff from out of the blue that doesn’t fit with the original intention, (like a helicopter flying overhead) and then as you’re watching this convoluted story unravel, you find yourself saying, “Whaattt? This doesn’t make any sense!”

And that’s how beliefs cause trouble.

As time moves on, more stories get piled up on more stories and some things get edited out and new generations interpret things differently and all of a sudden, 2000 years later, we celebrate the baby Jesus and Santa Claus at the same time.

And then Christmas, a truly sacred holy day, becomes controversial songs, late-night parties, over-indulging in food and drink, stress, buying stuff, and offending all kinds of people who have different religious, cultural, and political beliefs, that drags on for a month, and has completely lost its original message, which was:

a message of hope, joy, renewal, light, love, and peace to all.

If you’re celebrating Christmas this year, take some time to reflect on what it truly means to you.

Merry Christmas, Maria

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Does Life Coaching Really Work?

by Maria Koropecky, Wellness Coach.

Coaching helps you prepare your future on your terms, ~ Maria Koropecky

Coaching isn’t just for athletes anymore

More and more people are hiring coaches like Life Coaches, Executive Coaches, Business Coaches, Career Coaches, Book Writing Coaches, Voice Coaches, Relationship Coaches, Dating Coaches, Spiritual Coaches, Health & Wellness Coaches, and the list goes on and on, to help them improve some aspect of their life.

But does coaching really work?

Yes, I believe coaching works.

Thanks to a study from the International Coach Federation, (ICF), conducted in 2015, there are plenty of statistics that prove the effectiveness of coaching.

4 Results from Coaching

  1. 80% of clients improved their self-confidence
  2. 73% of clients improved their relationships
  3. 72% of clients improved their communication skills
  4. 67% of clients improved their work-life balance.

5 Benefits from Coaching

  1. Increased confidence and self-esteem
  2. Improved communication skills
  3. Better personal relationships
  4. Stronger interpersonal skills
  5. Enhanced work performance.

Also according to this survey:

99% of clients who hire a coach are satisfied and
96% of clients would hire a coach again.

This particular study shows that people are indeed benefitting from working with a coach.

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Does life coaching really work?

What do I talk about in my next wellness coaching session with Maria?

by Maria Koropecky, Spiritual Wellness Coach.

Whether you’ve been working with a wellness coach for several months or if you’re about to have your first ever coaching session, sometimes it’s challenging to find a topic to talk about.

When "I" is replaced with "we" even illness becomes wellness.

Working with a wellness coach can certainly be a life changing investment! In order to get the most value during your time with your wellness coach, it’s important to show up prepared and ready to go, and part of that includes having a topic to talk about.

If you’re having trouble answering the question, “What do you want to talk about today?” take a moment to ask yourself some questions before your coaching call to get your mind in gear. Here are some suggestions:

  1. Is there a recent positive experience you’d like to share — maybe something to celebrate?
  2. Is there a recent negative experience that you’d like to reframe?
  3. Did you take the action steps that you talked about during your previous coaching session?
  4. Have any questions come up for you during the past week that you’d like to ask?
  5. Have you had any insights and aha moments?

Hopefully, these five questions will be enough to inspire an animated and productive coaching conversation with your wellness coach, but if not, and you’re still asking yourself, “What am I going to talk about in my next wellness coaching session?” I’ve come up with a list of topics for you to choose from.

Here are some wellness coaching topic ideas:

Rest & Relaxation

“I’d like to sleep better.”

“I’m having trouble coping with stress and I’d like to find better ways to manage stress and relax.”

“I’d like to explore some ways to manage my anxiety.”

“I’d like to add meditation to my morning routine.”

“I’d like to figure out ways to better manage my pain and/or chronic illness.”

“I’d like to go on a vacation soon and I’d like to plan something really special.”

Healthier Lifestyle Choices

“I’d like to make significant changes in my life starting with my health.”

“I’d like to take a break from my digital devices.”

“I’d like to quit smoking cigarettes.”

“I’d like to quit drinking alcohol.”

“I’d like to clear some clutter in my house.”

“I’m feeling stuck in life and I don’t know what to do next.”

Relationships

“I’d like to heal my broken heart.”

“I’d like to have a better relationship with my partner and family.”

“I’ve just moved to Victoria (or another new city) and I’d like to meet some new people and make some new friends.

Aging Gracefully

“I have a big event coming up (like a milestone birthday, class reunion, wedding, etc.,) and I’d like to look and feel my best.”

“I’d like to balance my hormones and manage my PMS, Peri-menopausal or Menopausal symptoms.”

“I’d like to have clear skin on my face and body.”

“I’d like to have a healthy baby.”

“I’ve seen other people suffer in their senior years and I don’t want to be in the same boat. It’s up to me to take charge of my health now so that I can enjoy my life to the fullest and age gracefully.”

Fitness & Nutrition

“I need to make better choices in regards to what I eat.”

“I’d like to add exercise to my daily or weekly schedule.”

“I’d like to lose weight at a healthy pace.”

“I’m planning to run in a 5K charity event or marathon.”

“I’m recovering from a car accident or sports injury and would like to feel better.”

Career

“I’d like to get along better with my co-workers.

“I travel a lot for work and I’d like to maintain a healthy lifestyle even while I’m on the road.”

“I’m giving a presentation at work and would like it to go smoothly.”

“I’m thinking about changing careers or going back to school.”

“I’m thinking about becoming a wellness coach myself.”

“I’d like to start a workplace wellness program at the office.”

Do any of these ideas jump out at you? With coaching, whatever you talk about is up to you, the client.

As a wellness coach and spa therapist, I help my clients relax and have piece of mind and all of these topic ideas relate to managing stress in some way.

If any of these wellness coaching topics resonate with you, I encourage you to explore them in your upcoming coaching conversations and see where they take you. They just might hold some missing pieces to the puzzle you’re working on.

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Imagining Your Future Is Easier Than You Think!

by Maria Koropecky, Spiritual Wellness Coach

“I am enough of an artist to draw freely upon my imagination. Imagination is more important than knowledge, for knowledge is limited, whereas imagination encircles the world,” ~ Albert Einstein (1929)

Thank you, Albert Einstein for saying, “Imagination is more important the knowledge” because if you can imagine it, it means you’re more than halfway there!

In all of my wellness coaching conversations, I always ask my clients, “What would you like to be, do, have, or give?” or “What would you like to create?” It’s a question that looks to the future (rather than the past) and allows my coaching clients to imagine a future that will light them up.

Answers can be as varied as, “I’d like to write a New York Times bestseller,” or “I want to travel and live in another country for awhile,” or “I’d like to marry the love of my life,” or “I’d like to open a wellness centre,” or “I’d like to live in my oceanfront dream home,” or even, “I’d like to win the lottery!”

oceanfront dream home in Sidney, BC.
Sidney OceanView Home – Millionaire Lottery Grand Prize 2018/2019.

We live in a miraculous universe that is filled with infinite possibilities and we can literally create whatever we want in the grand scheme of things! Once we’re able to voice our imagined future in a clear sentence, it means we’ve already tapped into, and have become aware of, the existence of a possibility. Now it’s an option that we can choose, if we want! This is exciting!

I know saying we have access to infinite possibilities at any given moment sounds fishy and far-fetched but it’s true! It all starts with a gift we all have — our imagination!

Imagination is the key to creativity and in order for something to be created, it has to start off as a thought or idea in someone’s imagination first!

With that said, I had a chance to play with this idea a little bit over this past weekend by going on a tour of a million-dollar, ocean view dream home in Sidney by the Sea, BC. Talk about imagination!

Sidney grand prize millionaire lottery home.

This 4,551 sq/ft, oceanfront, west coast contemporary design home with five bedrooms and five bathrooms is located at 1686 Lands End Road in Sidney, BC, just North of Victoria, on the edge of Vancouver Island.

Just imagine yourself sitting outside in your backyard with the love of your life, gazing at the ocean and the starry night sky, contemplating the mysteries of the Universe!

The Sidney Millionaire Lottery Grand Prize Package also includes:

  • over $75,000 in a furniture credit,
  • a 2019 Jaguar F-Type convertible, and
  • $100,000 cash!

The Sidney package is worth over $3 million CAD!

Millionaire Lottery Tickets are on sale now!
2 for $100, 5 for $175, 10 or $250 and 25 for $500.

Now that you’re aware of the Sidney Millionaire Lottery Grand Prize Package and you’re thinking, “that would be nice,” the next step is engaging your imagination again, but this time it’s about rehearsing the experience of having what you want in your mind’s eye.

Some people call this process “mental rehearsal” or “visualization” or “remembering your future.”

As powerful as picturing something over and over again in your mind is, for some people, trying to visualize yourself in some future situation can be frustrating. You may be thinking, how am I supposed to know how something will feel before I’ve ever experienced it? If that’s the case, I invite you to:

  1. Find pictures and photos and quotes and websites of what you want to create and study those daily.
  2. You can also write down your dreams as a way of bringing them to life.
  3. You can also sign up for wellness coaching with me, Maria!

Sidney millionaire lottery grand prize.

Another thing you can do is “Act As If.” While I’m not a fan of the advice, “Fake it till you make it” because it just seems so manipulative and inauthentic, Acting As If will help you practice and rehearse your imagined future as a way of preparing yourself for the big day when it does show up in your life!

Actors practice their lines and rehearse their performances before the big show goes live!

And rehearsing isn’t just for actors.

We can apply this principle as we reach for our dreams as well. Think about test driving a car before buying it — you step into the car, sit in the seat, put on your seat belt, adjust your mirrors, turn the key, and you’re off to the races! It’s a great way to see whether or not you like driving this particular car or not.

When you’re able to enter into the environment of who you’d like to become (whether it’s wearing certain clothes, or going to certain places, or going window shopping, or learning something new in school for a future career), it trains your brain to see the new life you want to create as safe and familiar!

Acting As If is a way of experiencing something in real time, in your own body, rather than solely in your head (which is still really powerful), so you can recall the details of how it looked, sounded, smelled, tasted, and felt with your own senses, from your own perspective, later, whenever you want.

Acting As If is another way of saying, “Living into your dream” and it adds fuel to your creations!

So that’s where this Sidney Millionaire Lottery Grand Prize home tour comes in! When I stepped into the home, I felt like I belonged there, like I was getting a preview of my future!

sidney millionaire lottery grand prize.

Winning the lottery is definitely within the realm of possibilities!

If you want to view the Sidney home for yourself before your buy your tickets, tours will be offered soon, so come for a visit!

Tours and ticket sales starting November 10, 2018
on Saturdays and Sundays from noon to 4pm.

As you can see, imagining your future is easier than you think!

This Sidney home is one of eight grand prize options in the Millionaire Lottery 2018/2019.

The grand prize winner of the Millionaire Lottery doesn’t necessarily have to accept the Sidney home grande prize — they can choose one of seven luxury homes located in:

  1. Tsawwassen,
  2. South Surrey,
  3. White Rock/Sooke (two-condo package),
  4. Downtown Kelowna,
  5. West Kelowna,
  6. Vancouver, or
  7. Sidney.
  8. The winner also has the option of choosing $2.7 million in tax-free cash instead of taking one of the prize homes.

Of all of the stellar choices, the Sidney home is the grand prize I’m going to pick when I win this year’s Millionaire Lottery because I’m planning to turn the property into a wellness retreat centre!

I envision a calming spa, a wellness gift store, guided wellness walks on the beach, hosting over night guests, meeting with my wellness coaching clients, and I can see myself giving self-care workshops in the suite or living room — it’s going to be amazing and I can’t wait for you to visit me there!

That’s my imagined future! What’s yours?

Millionaire Lottery Tickets are on sale now!
2 for $100, 5 for $175, 10 or $250 and 25 for $500.

Grand Prize and Final Draws:

  • Final Sales Cutoff Deadline: Midnight, Friday, January 11, 2019
  • Grand Prize Draw Date: Thursday, January 31, 2019

The lottery also includes extra games:

  1. the 50/50 PLUS lottery with a maximum prize payout up to $1,140,000 (depending on the number of tickets sold), and
  2. the Daily Cash PLUS game returns with 105 days of winning, with a value of all prizes being $300,000.

The Millionaire Lottery supports VGH and UBC Hospital Foundations and money raised from lottery ticket sales goes to:

  1. Funding innovative research,
  2. Advancing specialized adult health care, and
  3. Purchasing critical medical equipment at Vancouver General Hospital, UBC Hospital, GF Strong Rehabilitation Centre, Vancouver Community Health Services, and Vancouver Coastal Health Research Institute.

For more information and to purchase your Millionaire Lottery tickets, please visit www.millionairelottery.com.

If you’d like to see another blog post I’ve written on this Millionaire Lottery topic, please head on over to my Homespunspa blog and read my post: “Would you like to host a spa party in this home?”

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Wellness Coach Maria Koropecky.

Making Peace with the Fear of Being Judged

by Maria Koropecky, Spiritual Wellness Coach

Many people like to sit on their high horses and look down their noses at everyone else and judge, judge, judge. It’s like a favourite pass-time or maybe even a sport!

man makes judging face.

Judging each other is nothing new. It’s part of our human nature. I think it’s like a survival skill. We need to know who is a friend and who is a foe and even 3-month old babies can read someone’s energy.

Quickly judging someone, rightly or wrongly, tells us if we can like and trust them, if we can feel safe with them, or if they’ll harm us or maybe even kill us. And with that assessment, we slap a big label on them and put them in a shoe box for future reference and treat them accordingly.

Often, the person being judged can suffer some consequences. Ultimately, I think that we fear being judged because it can literally mean a death sentence. Some people believe in a Judgement Day so that can tie into a fear of death. Also, if someone judges you, they can take away your livelihood and freedom.

When I was in high school, I read a book called, The Scarlet Letter by Nathanial Hawthorne — talk about judging! Set in Puritan Massachusetts in the 1640’s, poor Hester Prynne had to walk around with a big red A on her chest after she had an affair with a married man and became pregnant with her daughter, Pearl.

Can you imagine having to sew a red A for adultery on all of your clothes and say, “Hide your husbands everyone, Big A is coming down the street!” Thank goodness we’re not so strict anymore. Still, the judginess continues 400 years later…

As a highly sensitive person myself, I feel like I’ve been judged and criticized harshly all of my life. When I was growing up in the 1970’s, it seemed like the adults in my life (like my grandparents and teachers) only spoke to me when they needed to correct me about something — this time with big red X’s — and those criticisms were never sandwiched between compliments as they might be today.

Consequently, I interpreted their “well-meaning” words as “I’m not enough,” or “I’m not good enough,” or “they don’t like me,” or “there must be something wrong with me.” Not easy beliefs to live with to say the least.

By the way, did you know there’s a word for that?
Atelophobia is about the fear of imperfection and the fear of never being good enough, and by extension, the fear of being judged.

Who knew? Anyway, I also thought, well, “that’s how you treat people,” so I also became very critical of everyone I knew in my life, too. Needless to say, my opinions stated as facts didn’t go over well and I lost a lot of friends over the years. Not so much fun to be around. I’ve since worked on becoming less judgemental and not letting my ego run the show and I feel like I’m making good progress in that area.

But my fear of being judged still comes up every now and then.

In the last few weeks, I’ve been reminded of my beliefs about worthiness again. There’s an acquaintance in my life right now who is criticizing my every move and is bluntly and without care or sensitivity or warmth, pointing out all of my mistakes, making herself right and me wrong. She’s treating me like the adults did in my childhood! If only she could say something nice first, then I’d receive her “suggestions” better. Instead, I become defensive and I end up saying things that come out wrong and we clash and it’s not pleasant.

So I know what it’s like to be judged and criticized and it hurts. It’s hard not to fall into that trap of believing someone else’s opinion of you over your own.

I’m trying to remind myself, “Don’t let someone’s low opinion of you, lower your own opinion of you” and “Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth,” and

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent,” Eleanor Roosevelt.

I can’t blame this acquaintance for how she’s making me feel. It doesn’t have anything to do with her. She’s just holding up a mirror. It’s all me which means I can change what I do next.

The good news is, the recent events in my life have inspired me to write this blog post and this situation is giving me the opportunity to challenge my outdated beliefs and clear them away once and for all!

woman kicking.

Spiritual Ideas to Make Peace with the Fear of Being Judged

  1. Practice Self-Care — If someone is giving you a hard time and is trying to push your buttons, do something nice for yourself (like get a massage or get your haircut or go for a long walk outside) and show yourself you care.
  2. Acceptance — The sooner you accept yourself as you are, accept others as they are, and accept the situation as it is, the sooner you’ll feel better.
  3. Forgiveness — Forgive everyone everything, especially yourself and anyone you feel is judging you. Let go of your past grievances because otherwise they may negatively affect your work (which would in turn create more judgment).
  4. Perfect is Boring — If you think being perfect will keep the judgers at bay, you’re not entirely off the hook. Some people are threatened by perfect people and other people will keep digging till they find some dirt. And striving for perfection is exhausting and if you do happen to be perfect, there’s nothing else left to do or learn anymore — no more room to grow — so what’s the point?
  5. Let Yourself Be Seen Anyway — Some people try to avoid being judged by hiding under the covers and staying home all day because it’s just too risky and dangerous to put themselves out there. But not going out into the world doesn’t work either because it’s a waste of our gifts and we’re here to share and help each other and shine our light.
  6. Lighten Up On Judging Others — Somehow, by not being so judgemental of others, others will not be so judgemental of you. When you find yourself making a mean comment about someone, ask yourself, “What’s that about?” We tend to judge people on what we think is important (like fashion or good driving) and if you catch yourself judging someone and ask yourself about it, you’ll gain some valuable self-awareness in the process.
  7. Relax Your Grip — Part of judging is trying to control other people. Don’t be so rigid about how people should behave or how things should be done. Everybody brings something different to the table and your way is not the only way. Give people a break and let them be who they are.
  8. Send Compassion Instead — The next time you see someone who doesn’t seem to be measuring up to your standards, send them compassion. They’re doing their best.
  9. Remember Your Sense of Humour — So what if you have spinach in between your teeth or if you’ve worn your shirt inside out in public — on the same day! 🙂 Turn your misadventures into funny stories that everyone can relate to and don’t take yourself so seriously.
  10. It’s All Just Feedback — I find if I look at comments as feedback and not criticism, it takes the edge off them. Also, if someone is judging you and telling you something you don’t want to hear, it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re being mean. Next time that happens, remember it’s just feedback. You have the choice to accept their notes or not. But maybe, if you apply their observations to your life, it just might help you up your game and be a better version of yourself.
  11. It’s Not The Truth of Who You Are — Someone’s snap judgement about you is not the Truth (it’s an opinion at best) so don’t consume it like food and put it in your body and carry it around with you and give it meaning, especially if it feels bad.
  12. Labels Are Meaningless — We are not superficial labels of things. We are not our hair colour, we are not the cars we drive, we are not our jobs or our marital status, or the mistakes we make, or our accomplishments. The essence of who we are is so much more than packaging and appearances. We are human beings with tremendous potential!

Here’s a quote from Bob Marley about Perfection in a Relationship:

you're not perfect, he isn't either.

I hope this blog post helps but if you’re still struggling with the fear of being judged and you’re bouncing between perfectionism and avoiding being seen like I have, this is a topic we can work on in our wellness coaching conversations. Please contact me, Maria, if you’d like to talk about your options. I promise I’ll create a safe space for our meeting.

Wellness Coach Maria Koropecky.

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