The Art of Listening

by Maria Koropecky, Wellness Coach

Listening is my bread and butter.

I often take wellness walks to my favourite pond in my neighbourhood just to practice my listening skills. I enjoy listening to the birds tweeting, the ducks swimming and landing in the water, the leaves on the trees rustling in the wind… it’s quite a symphony!

As a wellness coach, it’s my honour to listen to my clients as they share from their hearts and I appreciate the trust that is given to me.

So, in the spirit of listening, here are 17 quotes that highlight the value of listening, to inspire you to listen more closely to others, including yourself.

17 Quotes on Listening

#1 Put listening first in all of your relationships

“The first duty of love is to listen,”

~ Paul Tillich

#2 Being a good listener is attractive

“Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward. When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand,”

~ Karl A. Menniger

# 3 Listening is comforting

“Listening is a hug you give with your mind,”

~ Barbara Nixon

#4 Listening is about asking good questions

“If you spend time asking appropriate questions rather that giving answers or opinions, your listening skills will increase,”

~ Brian Koslow

#5 Listening is not multi-tasking

“You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time,”

~ M. Scott Peck

#6 Listening is showing respect

One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another had to say,”

~ Bryant H. McGill

#7 Listening is educational

“Listen and hear not only what you thought you wanted to hear. Listen and hear what you have to learn,”

~ Ralph S. Marston, Jr.

#8 Listening is friendly

“Friends are those rare people who ask how we are and then wait to hear the answer,”

~ Ed Cunningham

#9 Listening is receiving

“Listening is a form of accepting,”

~ Stella Terill Mann

#10 Listening is persuasive & influential

“One of the best ways to persuade others is with your ears – by listening to them,”

~ Dean Rusk

#11 Listening is showing the people in your life that they are loved

“Being listened to is so close to being loved that most people cannot tell the difference,”

~ David Oxberg

#12 Listening helps you get past someone’s ego and see the essence of who they really are

“To listen fully means to pay close attention to what is being said beneath the words. You listen not only to the ‘music,’ but to the essence of the person speaking. You listen not only for what someone knows, but for what he or she is,”

~ Peter Senge

#13 We have two ears and one mouth for a reason

“We have two ears and one tongue so that we would listen more and talk less,”

~ Diogenes

#14 Remember to also listen to what is not being said

“The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t said,”

~ Peter Drucker

#15 Listening can be a game changer

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around,”

~ Leo Buscaglia

#16 Listening is about being curious

“I love going to coffee shops and just sitting and listening,”

~ Julia Roberts

How about you? Do you have any favourite quotes about listening? If so, please share them with us in the comments.

On a final note, the art of listening is truly underrated. When you’re blessed enough to find a person who will listen intently to what you have to say, keep them around.

But if you don’t have anyone in your life that you can trust, please contact me, Maria. As Martin and Frasier Crane sing on the Frasier TV show…

#17 Remember this catchy tune?

“What’s new? I’m listen’n. Feelin’ blue? I’m listen’n. Feelin’ sad, feelin’ mad, feelin’ bad, feelin’ glad, I’m listen’n.

Martin & Frasier Crane

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Intermittent Fasting: How I Lost 12 Pounds During Lent

by Maria Koropecky, Wellness Coach

On Fat Tuesday, I went to a birthday party and ate a few slices of really good pizza along with a piece of fancy birthday cake from a bakery.

Two days later on March 7, I spontaneously decided to give up eating snacks and desserts for Lent.

I really like to eat potato chips, cookies, and ice cream whenever I have the chance but during the six weeks of Lent, I was only allowing myself to eat three square meals a day, with nothing in between, often for five, six, seven, eight plus hours each day, my version of Intermittent Fasting.

sushi on the table.
Photo by Sarah Pflug @ Burst

What is Intermittent Fasting?

Intermittent Fasting (IF) is a scheduled eating plan that is more about when you eat than what you eat. If you leave several hours between meals, (rather than eat a little bit here and a little bit there and a lot over here), you give your body a chance to process and digest your food more efficiently.

Basically, I ate whatever I wanted during my three meals a day (including bread, potatoes, meats, and cheeses) but that was it to the next meal.

To me, Intermittent Fasting is related to the Keto Diet in the sense that Ketosis occurs when the body burns stored fats for energy rather than using quick sugars and carbohydrates.

It’s like going back to the warehouse to buy something rather than taking it off the shelf in the store.

Once you start burning fat for fuel, you’ll start losing weight. But remember, one little grape will knock you out of that process, so it’s important to not introduce any sugars what-so-ever into your fasting time.

Did you know the word “Breakfast” comes from “breaking the fast” from the last meal you had the day before?

I had tried Intermittent Fasting a couple of years ago with great success so I already knew what I was getting myself into but this time was quite different from the first.

The first time I tried Intermittent Fasting, I basically coasted through it.

I didn’t realize that this time I’d be embarking on a spiritual quest, filled with days of emotional upheaval.

Yes, I often felt hungry and cranky and tired but I stuck with my eating plan because I realized that I no longer wanted to stuff down my feelings and numb myself out with food. Emotional eating wasn’t going to be my coping strategy anymore and I wanted to face my feelings and my demons head on.

In my mind, as hard as it was to get through the rough patches, the intense emotions actually meant that I was dredging up a lot of old emotional junk that I had been hanging onto for decades.

Each day as I fasted, I was releasing and clearing tons of emotional baggage so it wouldn’t weigh me down anymore and keep me from living the life of my dreams. Being emotional was actually a good sign!

To me, snacks and desserts represent too many extra and unnecessary calories and I was trying to run on approximately 1500 calories a day, without actually counting anything. I’ve learned that we really don’t need as many calories as we think we do.

The good news is, as of Easter Monday, I’ve managed to release 12 pounds in just over 6 weeks, which is less than 2 pounds a week, which is a very healthy and sustainable pace. I plan to keep going.

drinking tea.
Photo by Matthew Henry @ Burst.

My Guidelines for Intermittent Fasting

Of course there are many approaches you can take if you want to try Intermittent Fasting and/or the Keto Diet but here are the guidelines that I personally follow.

  • Talk to your doctor before attempting any kind of significant dietary changes.
  • Know your big why — I happen to have a big 50th birthday coming up so that’s motivation enough for me!
  • Weigh yourself and record the weight in a journal. It’s not really about the weight and how many pounds you lose but it’s a good idea to know where you started. The real evidence is how you’re feeling about yourself.
  • Reduce carbs and sugar — less bread, potatoes, pasta, and rice.
  • Eat more fat because it helps you feel full and it helps your brain function better and it helps keep things running smoothly.
  • No snacks, no desserts, no wine or alcohol.
  • Drink lots of water and tea. In another blog post, I’ll share a Turmeric drink that I discovered that I found helpful and I really enjoy.
  • See websites that talk about Ketosis and Intermittent Fasting.
  • Eat three times a day: breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
  • Try not to eat past 7pm.
  • Eat mindfully and taste each morsel of food you put into your mouth. Food does start tasting better and better as you go along.
  • Take supplements including: Vitamin B, Vitamin C, Vitamin D, Omega 3’s, Women’s Daily or Men’s Daily, and Magnesium.
  • Take Wellness Walks 4-5 times a week.
  • Workout and lift weights at least once a week.
  • Train to run — I’m up to running 8 minutes!
  • Find an Acupuncture Clinic and go as often as you can — they can tailor your treatments to help support your digestion and weight loss efforts and it’s really relaxing!
  • Do stretches daily.
  • Reach out to old and new friends and have one meaningful conversation, (preferably face to face and in person), each day.
  • Get a good night’s sleep every night.
  • Crystals that might help include: Amethyst, Angelite, Bloodstone, Blue Apatite, Calcite Alabaster, Carnelian, Citrine, Garnet, Labradorite, Red Jasper, Rhodonite, Rose Quartz, Sunstone, Tiger’s Eye, Turquoise.
  • Good foods for weightloss include: Low carb/high fiber veggies, avocados, Greek yogurt, eggs, cheese, olive oil, coconut oil, berries, nuts, dark chocolate, fish/seafood, meat, poultry.
  • Eat lots of orange foods like carrots, salmon, and mango — they’re about honouring the Divine Feminine within all of us.
  • Meditate every day.
  • Check weight at least once a week and record your progress in a journal along with any other significant details (like your mood or wins or the weather, etc).
  • Practice daily self-care.
  • Relax and manage stress.
  • Clear clutter in your environment.
  • Live from your essence and take your ego out of it.
  • Assure yourself that this isn’t starvation and that you’re doing this for your long-term health and you will eat lots of good food every day.
  • Talk to a Wellness Coach, like me!

Intermittent Fasting isn’t easy but eventually you get used to not eating as often. Somehow, I managed to get through baking without sampling, cooking breakfasts for crowds, 3 dinner parties, 1 restaurant lunch, potato chips in the house, and Easter brunch without giving into temptation.

Now, my skin in clearer, my hair is softer, my eyes are brighter, my pants fit better, and I’m living more as my authentic self. To me, that’s worth it and I’m planning to continue to eat like this for the foreseeable future.

If you have any questions about Intermittent Fasting or would like some Wellness Coaching, please contact me, Maria, by email.

Wellness Coach Maria Koropecky.

Seeking to Build a Wellness Meetup Leadership Team

by Maria Koropecky, Wellness Coach

Calling all Wellness Professionals in Victoria, BC!

I have an idea for a Wellness Meetup-type Group that I’d like to launch here in Victoria by the start of summer, 2019.

by Matthew Henry from Burst

Essentially, as a Wellness Coach, I’d like to collaborate with other wellness professionals in the area like:

  1. Acupuncturists
  2. Aromatherapists
  3. Artists
  4. Athletes
  5. Authors
  6. Bloggers
  7. Caregivers
  8. Chair Massage Practitioners
  9. Chefs
  10. Chiropractors
  11. Counsellors
  12. Energy Healers
  13. Entrepreneurs
  14. Estheticians
  15. Event Planners
  16. Financial Planners
  17. Hair Stylists
  18. Health & Safety Officers
  19. Holistic Dentists
  20. Life Coaches
  21. Massage Therapists
  22. Motivational Speakers
  23. Musicians
  24. Nurses
  25. Nutritionists
  26. Personal Trainers
  27. Physio Therapists
  28. Reiki Masters
  29. Retreat Leaders
  30. Social Workers
  31. Spa Therapists
  32. Spiritual Advisors
  33. Teachers
  34. Tour Guides
  35. Veterinarians
  36. Wellness Store Staff Members
  37. Workplace Wellness Coordinators
  38. Workshop Facilitators
  39. Yoga Instructors, etc…
by Nick Chung from Burst

And create a monthly event that will allow us to showcase our wellness products and services to health & wellness enthusiasts here in the Greater Victoria area.

The yet-to-be-launched Meetup-type group will center around the importance of practicing daily Self-Care.

So if helping people practice self-care is part of your family-friendly business, join us!

Member participation involves attending a Wednesday night planning meeting and renting a booth at the Self-Care & Wellness Fair on Sundays, once a month.

You’ll also have opportunities to speak and give presentations to further extend your reach.

by Matthew Henry from Burst.

And of course you’ll get to know and have a chance to collaborate with other like-minded Wellness Professionals in a positive environment.

This is a big idea and I’m going to need some help getting it rolling!

So, if you’re a Wellness Professional based on Vancouver Island near Victoria, who’d like to:

• volunteer on this Wellness Meetup Leadership Team,
• get in on the ground floor of this opportunity,
• be the go-to practitioner in your field, and
• organically build your clientele here in Victoria,

please express your interest to me, Maria, by email.

Wellness Coach Maria Koropecky.

In your email, let me know your area of expertise, why you like this idea, and anything you can contribute to Meetup group (like a venue for example) and we’ll arrange a time to meet.

Also, if you know someone who’d be so up for this, kindly share this blog post with them!

If by chance you’re only interested in joining the group once it’s up and running and not joining the leadership team, and would like to be notified of our next meeting, that’s OK, just send me your contact details and I’ll keep you posted.

I’m looking forward to hearing from you.

I believe this Wellness Professionals Group has tremendous potential!

Let’s make Victoria, BC the wellness and self-care capital of Canada!

by Nicole De Khors from Burst.

12 Things to Look for in a Great Wellness Coach

by Maria Koropecky, Wellness Coach

Are you interested in healing a health concern in your life? Would you like to work with a Wellness Coach? If yes, you may also be wondering, “How on earth am I going to find a qualified wellness coach” and “where do I start?”

When "I" is replaced with "we" even illness becomes wellness.

First, to find a qualified Wellness Coach, do an online search using the keywords “wellness coach” and “your city.” You might also like to add the words, “best” and “near me.”

Also, ask your friends and co-workers for a referral — maybe they know of someone who does a good job.

With today’s technology, you don’t necessarily have to live in the same city or area as your Wellness Coach, but scheduling appointments is much easier when you live in the same time zone.

Another good idea is to keep an eye out for upcoming live wellness-related workshops, talks, and events in your area. Hearing a Wellness Coach speak is a great way to preview their professional style and area of focus and it’s a wonderful chance to meet likeminded people, too!

Come up with a list of at least three names, (my brother told my mother to find three bids on her home renovations and I think that’s good advice when you’re thinking about hiring any professional services).

let's connect on Skype.

Once you have your list, take the time to review their websites and then call them to see if you can set up a consultation appointment to meet them — either through online video, by phone, or in person — to see what they’re all about.

Consultation Appointment

As you’re meeting with a prospective Wellness Coach, look to see if they have the following qualities:

  1. Interpersonal skills: Do they make you feel comfortable? Do they establish a good connection with you? Do you like them enough to spend time with them?
  2. Communication skills: Are they explaining their work in a way that makes sense? Are they actively listening to what you have to say?
  3. Professional: Are they presenting themselves in a professional manner? Do they take pride in their appearance?
  4. Caring Personality: Do they have a friendly, calm, patient, and caring nature?
  5. Practice Self-Care: Are they walking their talk, practicing what they preach, and taking good care of themselves?
  6. Empathetic and Compassionate: Can you tell if they have an understanding of what it’s like to be in your shoes?
  7. Knowledgeable: Are they knowledgeable in their field of practice?
  8. Self Confidence: Do they know their own value and the value of their coaching services? Are they assertive enough? Are they good at solving problems and making decisions?
  9. Physical Stamina: Do they have the energy and stamina needed to keep up with the demands of their profession?
  10. Flexibility: Are they willing to be flexible to accommodate your needs?
  11. Trustworthy: Do they come across as honest, trustworthy, respectful, and reliable?
  12. Like their work: Do they enjoy what they do for a living and do they genuinely smile often?

Hopefully, you’ll have a check mark next to all of the above. Feel free to add you’re your own preferences to this list as well. You’ll also want to keep your eye out for any of the following red flags:

Red Flags

  1. Distracted by drama: Are they focusing on you, the client, or are they busy with something else?
  2. Closed Communication: Is it hard to reach them by phone or email? Are they dismissive or rude?
  3. Burnout: Are they showing signs of fatigue, depression, stress, and burn out?
  4. Frazzled: Are they unkempt? Are they organized? Are they running late?
  5. Arrogance & Snobbiness: Is their nose in the air? Is their ego in the way?
  6. Judginess: Do they make you feel bad about yourself by judging your appearance, age, state of health, lifestyle choices, marital status, etc?
  7. Exorbitant Fees or Bargain Pricing: Are their coaching fees in line with other life coaches and wellness coaches or are they way too low or way too high for the market?
  8. Gut Instinct: Do you have a bad feeling when you’re talking to them?

If the consultation goes well, go ahead and book your coaching sessions. But if any of these red flags show up, then go with the person you feel will help you the most.

Taking the time to arrange a consultation appointment and meeting a prospective wellness coach on the phone or in person is a great way to see if you click before you make any long-term commitments.

Working with a talented Wellness Coach is definitely worth the investment and I hope you find a great Wellness Coach who ticks all of the boxes!

Wellness Coach Maria Koropecky.

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Love this Song! Thanks, Natasha!

Unwritten, Natasha Bedingfield

I am unwritten, can’t read my mind, I’m undefined
I’m just beginning, the pen’s in my hand, ending unplanned
Staring at the blank page before you
Open up the dirty window
Let the sun illuminate the words that you could not find
Reaching for something in the distance
So close you can almost taste it
Release your inhibitions

Feel the rain on your skin
No one else can feel it for you
Only you can let it in
No one else, no one else
Can speak the words on your lips
Drench yourself in words unspoken
Live your life with arms wide open
Today is where your book begins
The rest is still unwritten
Oh, oh, oh

I break tradition, sometimes my tries, are outside the lines
We’ve been conditioned to not make mistakes, but I can’t live that way
Staring at the blank page before you
Open up the dirty window
Let the sun illuminate the words that you could not find
Reaching for something in the distance
So close you can almost taste it
Release your inhibitions

Feel the rain on your skin
No one else can feel it for you
Only you can let it in
No one else, no one else
Can speak the words on your lips
Drench yourself in words unspoken
Live your life with arms wide open
Today is where your book begins
The rest is still unwritten

Staring at the blank page before you
Open up the dirty window
Let the sun illuminate the words that you could not find
Reaching for something in the distance
So close you can almost taste it
Release your inhibitions

Feel the rain on your skin
No one else can feel it for you
Only you can let it in
No one else, no one else
Can speak the words on your lips
Drench yourself in words unspoken
Live your life with arms wide open
Today is where your book begins
The rest is still unwritten
The rest is still unwritten
The rest is still unwritten
Oh, yeah, yeah

Songwriters: Danielle A. Brisebois / Natasha Anne Bedingfield / Wayne Steven Jr Rodrigues
Unwritten lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC

Unwritten
“The rest is still unwritten…”

I’ve adopted Unwritten as my own personal theme song for this year. It’s so upbeat and fun and inspiring and the video makes me smile.

I’m going to sing this song to myself whenever I like! Maybe even dance a little, too!

I’ve always liked this song, first released in 2004, even though it made me a little uncomfortable — I didn’t quite get it — but now some of the lines really jump out at me.

“Open up the dirty window” — it’s like, let some fresh air into your past and let it breathe.

“So close you can almost taste it” — I feel like I’m on the verge of a breakthrough and it’s within reach.

“Release your inhibitions” — that’s about accepting yourself as you are and just going for it.

“No one else can feel it for you” — you can’t look outside of yourself for validation or live vicariously through other people.

“Live your life with arms wide open” — that’s about surrender.

“Today is where your book begins” — You can only create from here, the present moment.

“The rest is still unwritten” — Endless possibilities.

Wow. That’s a really powerful song!

Wouldn’t it be wonderful to be able to live your life as your most authentic and vulnerable self — no shame, no inhibitions, no fear, and be able to connect with other living beings on a genuinely deep level — no egos, no games, no agendas — just being and letting things unfold naturally?

How refreshing is that?

Crystal Mapping Sessions

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Let’s Get Creative!

by Maria Koropecky, Wellness Coach

I feel like I’m in a really fertile and creative time in my life. I’ve been doing a lot of writing, baking, and drawing and I have all kinds of artistic ideas that I’d like to explore. My biggest intention is to attempt a painting technique called, “Acrylic Pouring.”

acrylic paint set.
Acrylic paint set photo by Maria Koropecky.

Acrylic pouring or fluid painting is all about pouring paints onto a canvas and letting the colours mix together and create their own unique patterns. The end results can be quite stunning and I don’t think it’s possible to re-create the same painting twice. It looks like it would be totally up my alley.

Before I take the plunge and try my hand at acrylic pouring, I’ve been watching all kinds of YouTube videos and purchasing supplies. As simple as this technique looks, there’s so much to learn and so many different styles to choose from.

To make things easier, I’ve also made a list of steps that will might help get the creative juices flowing. Perhaps talking about art and creativity will inspire you to create your own masterpieces.

Regardless of what kind of creative project you’re working on, whether it’s a new business, renovating your house, planning your summer vacation, planting a garden, writing a blog post, or painting paintings like I am, remember to have fun!

If you approach anything as if you’re working on an art project like you would in school, it will make the process so much more enjoyable and your final product will likely turn out better.

blank sketch book.
Blank page in a sketch book photo by Maria Koropecky.

So here are 25 my steps to creating!

  1. Get an assignment including: due date, budget, guidelines, and special requests.
  2. Brainstorm options. What wants to emerge? Jot some ideas into a journal or sketchbook. If you end up drawing a blank, step away from your project and do something else for a little while (like take a walk outside). Once the ideas start popping into your head, go back to your canvas right away.
  3. Inspiration, Idea, & Vision – What’s your idea? Have a clear vision of what you want to create. Make a decision about the direction you want to go in. Know your “Big Why.”
  4. Take your idea as far as you can while also being open to sudden bursts of delightful surprises – that’s part of the fun of creativity.
  5. Commit and make this project your priority. Prepare your materials and your work station. Change your clothes if necessary. Don’t give into your excuses.
  6. Is this a solo project or collaboration? Ask yourself, “Who do I need to talk to about this?” and then talk to them. Note: When working on a creative project, friends, parents, teachers, and others can guide from their wisdom, but they can’t do the assignment for you. Don’t let them take over.
  7. Start from a blank canvas. Don’t work with leftovers and don’t skip steps. A blank canvas is where all possibilities exist.
  8. Create from a place of gratitude. Affirm: “I’m so happy, grateful, and relieved now that I’ve created this wonderful…”
  9. Create from a place of joy, love, relaxation, and trust.
  10. Ask yourself, “Who am I being as I’m working on this project?” and “Who am I becoming?”
  11. Be present. Focus on what you’re doing. Tune into your senses. Remember to breathe. Drink a glass of water. Play some music. Follow your intuitive guidance.
  12. Enjoy the creative process and the journey. The end results are secondary (or not significant) because the means justify the ends.
  13. Be generous – don’t hold back.
  14. Accept any mistakes – these may be happy accidents. It’s not about perfection.
  15. Forgive everyone everything. Let go of your past grievances because otherwise they may negatively affect your work. Be kind and helpful to everyone you meet on your path.
  16. Surrender your ego and let God show the way. Don’t force the outcome or insist on your plan.
  17. Quiet your mind and ask, “What steps would be best for me to take next?” Let the answers come.
  18. Get to work! Put something on the canvas. Take action and do the steps in their natural order. Work quickly and efficiently. Clean as you go.
  19. You’re free to do what you want. Push yourself beyond your comfort zone. Break some rules and colour outside the lines. And like children when they’re making mud pies, don’t be afraid to get your hands dirty!
  20. Consider any feedback. Make notes in your journal about what you’re doing. Notice any unexpected signs and synchronicities that may be showing up in other parts of your life.
  21. If you end up making a muddy mess, that’s OK. Just say, “So what, what’s next?” and start a new canvas. Remember that whatever happens is OK.
  22. Keep going until the bell rings.
  23. Share your creations with others.
  24. Your own feelings about your work and performance are more important than someone else’s evaluation, judgement, and opinion. It’s not about the grade, winning the competition, what anyone else is doing, or the final sale price. Ask yourself, “What’s the gift or the lesson from this art project?”
  25. Meditate, rest, and sleep well so you can do it all again the next day.
sketching crystal heart logo in book.
Sketching crystal heart logo photo by Maria Koropecky.

Well, that’s my list of steps to creating something that has never existed before.

Would you like to create something new in your life, too?

Think about what you want to be, do, have, or give, and then go and create them!

And share your insights and creations in the comments below! I hope to show you my own art soon!

Crystal Mapping Sessions

Would you like to have some spiritual guidance on this topic? Consider signing up for a Free Crystal Mapping Session with Spa Therapist and Wellness Coach, Maria Koropecky. Email Maria to book your free Crystal Mapping Session today!

Wellness Coach Maria Koropecky.

The Top 1970’s TV Shows that Influenced my Life

On Friday nights, back in the 1970’s, when I was a kid growing up in Nova Scotia, I used to love opening up the hide-a-bed, popping a bowl of popcorn, choosing a bottle of pop from the Poppe Shoppe, and watching the TV show, Donny & Marie.

top 1970's tv shows that influenced my life.

Maybe you can relate to the days when TV’s were:

  • square,
  • when they were either black & white or colour,
  • when they had rabbit ears that never quite sat in the right place for best reception,
  • when you had to turn a chunky dial to change channels,
  • when remote controls were a luxury and some even attached to the TV with a chord,
  • when there were only three major networks,
  • when there was only one TV in the house, and
  • your parents said, “Don’t sit too close to the TV or you’ll hurt your eyes.”

If you can remember those days, you’re probably a Gen-Xer (born between 1961 and 1981) like me.

When I think back on all of the TV shows I used to watch when I was a kid, I’m struck by how inspiring many of them were.

I have a CD of TV show theme songs which I listen to every now and then when I need a little pick me up. How can you not feel better when you hear, “Who can turn the world on with her smile…” or “Well, we’re movin’ on up…”?

Yes, listening to music is part of practicing self-care and I like to call it, “Music and Sound Therapy.”

The theme song lyrics are really empowering, especially for women, who were breaking new ground in those days and the messages are just as powerful today!

I believe these TV shows from the 1970’s shaped my values and my dreams and expanded my ideas of what was possible for me to do in my life!

My Favourite 1970’s TV Shows

  1. Donny & Marie
  2. the Carol Burnett Show
  3. the Mary Tyler Moore Show
  4. the Brady Bunch
  5. Wonder Woman
  6. the Bionic Woman
  7. Charlie’s Angels
  8. Happy Days
  9. Laverne & Shirley
  10. The Love Boat
  11. Bewitched
  12. Little House on the Prairie

I know these TV shows might be a little cheesy and campy in today’s world, but that’s part of their charm. I, personally, appreciate their wholesome inclinations.

As you may have noticed, these TV shows, in their own way, are all about striving to have a better life, regardless of your humble beginnings.

All it takes is a little love, creativity, imagination, resourcefulness, smarts, physical fitness, a sense of adventure, a sense of humour, and close friends and family!

How about you? What are some of your favourite TV shows from your childhood? Please leave a comment and share your memories.

If you also watched and enjoyed many of the TV shows I mentioned (though of course there are many more) when you were in elementary school, please contact me.

Perhaps I can help you navigate this next chapter of your life as you approach perimenopause and menopause. Yes, Gen-Xers are currently in our 40’s and 50’s and that’s worth celebrating!

Let’s continue to carry the torch of empowerment and keep running the good race!

Wellness Coach Maria Koropecky.

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How to Save an Extra $1378 this Year

by Maria Koropecky, Wellness Coach

Since we’re heading into a new year, I thought it would be nice to share a system to save an extra $1378 in 52 weeks.

Who couldn’t use an extra $1378 in their pocket one year from now?

piggy bank.
Matthew Henry, photographer

52-Week Money Challenge

It’s called the 52-Week Money Challenge.

You may have come across this 52-Week Money Challenge system before and you may have thought it was a good idea, but for some reason you didn’t follow through. Well, it’s a new year and a new you so let’s give it another try together!

And if you have managed to save money with this challenge in previous years, please let us know in the comments and share your tips on how to be a successful saver!

In my coaching conversations, I talk about practicing self-care often and saving money is part of a healthy Financial Self-Care plan. I highly recommend getting into the habit of paying yourself first and tucking away some money for your future!

Anyway, I’m planning to follow this 52-week Money Savings Challenge myself each week for the next 12 months and I’m inviting you to join me. It’ll be fun!

Instructions

There are 3 different ways that you can participate in this 52-Week Money Savings Challenge so don’t feel like you have to follow it to the original letter (Option #1) to be successful.

Option #1 — Original Method

  • Week: 1, Deposit: $1, Account Balance: $1
  • Week: 2, Deposit: $2, Account Balance: $3
  • Week: 3, Deposit: $3, Account Balance: $6
  • Week: 4, Deposit: $4, Account Balance: $10
  • Week: 5, Deposit: $5, Account Balance: $15
  • Week: 6, Deposit: $6, Account Balance: $21
  • Week: 7, Deposit: $7, Account Balance: $28
  • Week: 8, Deposit: $8, Account Balance: $36
  • Week: 9, Deposit: $9, Account Balance: $45
  • Week: 10, Deposit: $10, Account Balance: $55
  • Week: 11, Deposit: $11, Account Balance: $66
  • Week: 12, Deposit: $12, Account Balance: $78
  • Week: 13, Deposit: $13, Account Balance: $91
  • Week: 14, Deposit: $14, Account Balance: $105
  • Week: 15, Deposit: $15, Account Balance: $120
  • Week: 16, Deposit: $16, Account Balance: $136
  • Week: 17, Deposit: $17, Account Balance: $153
  • Week: 18, Deposit: $18, Account Balance: $171
  • Week: 19, Deposit: $19, Account Balance: $190
  • Week: 20, Deposit: $20, Account Balance: $210
  • Week: 21, Deposit: $21, Account Balance: $231
  • Week: 22, Deposit: $22, Account Balance: $253
  • Week: 23, Deposit: $23, Account Balance: $276
  • Week: 24, Deposit: $24, Account Balance: $300
  • Week: 25, Deposit: $25, Account Balance: $325
  • Week: 26, Deposit: $26, Account Balance: $351
  • Week: 27, Deposit: $27, Account Balance: $378
  • Week: 28, Deposit: $28, Account Balance: $406
  • Week: 29, Deposit: $29, Account Balance: $435
  • Week: 30, Deposit: $30, Account Balance: $465
  • Week: 31, Deposit: $31, Account Balance: $496
  • Week: 32, Deposit: $32, Account Balance: $528
  • Week: 33, Deposit: $33, Account Balance: $561
  • Week: 34, Deposit: $34, Account Balance: $595
  • Week: 35, Deposit: $35, Account Balance: $630
  • Week: 36, Deposit: $36, Account Balance: $666
  • Week: 37, Deposit: $37, Account Balance: $703
  • Week: 38, Deposit: $38, Account Balance: $741
  • Week: 39, Deposit: $39, Account Balance: $780
  • Week: 40, Deposit: $40, Account Balance: $820
  • Week: 41, Deposit: $41, Account Balance: $861
  • Week: 42, Deposit: $42, Account Balance: $903
  • Week: 43, Deposit: $43, Account Balance: $946
  • Week: 44, Deposit: $44, Account Balance: $990
  • Week: 45, Deposit: $45, Account Balance: $1035
  • Week: 46, Deposit: $46, Account Balance: $1081
  • Week: 47, Deposit: $47, Account Balance: $1128
  • Week: 48, Deposit: $48, Account Balance: $1176
  • Week: 49, Deposit: $49, Account Balance: $1225
  • Week: 50, Deposit: $50, Account Balance: $1275
  • Week: 51, Deposit: $51, Account Balance: $1326
  • Week: 52, Deposit: $52, Account Balance: $1378

Option #2 — Random Method

Option #2 uses the same chart as above, but instead of following the incremental order as outlined, you can pick any amount from the list and deposit that amount during any given week. You may want to get some of the bigger ones out of the way early so they don’t all pile up at the end and stop your progress. Just remember to check them off as you go!

Option #3 — Equal Installments Method

Option #3 is perhaps the easiest option of the them all. Some people stop doing the 52-Week Savings Challenge part-way through because they forget which week they’re on and how much they’re supposed to deposit at that time.

The answer is depositing the same amount into your savings account each week, every week. No pressure, no guesswork. In this case, if you still want to go for having an extra $1378 at the end of the year, just deposit $26.50 each week (or $1378/52 weeks) like clockwork for 52 straight weeks!

Whatever option you choose, have some fun with this. Remember you’re a creative and resourceful human being — you can find this extra cash if you keep your eyes open!

But if you happen to miss some weeks, that’s OK. Just pick up where you left off and keep going. Even a fraction of the $1378 is better than nothing!

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Tips to Save Money

First of all, in order to start saving money on a regular basis, it’s important to have a safe place to keep your cash. You can open up a designated Savings account at your bank. You can also save your cash in a special jar at home.

Just make sure you know your opening balance in your Savings account or piggy bank before you start adding cash so you know your starting point and then watch your savings grow from there!

Some experts suggest moving 10% of your paycheques into your savings account each time you get paid before you spend it anywhere else. You can set this up automatically with your bank.

You can also slide a certain dollar amount or percentage over to your savings account every time you use your debit card.

Also, if you get paid in tips, (which is free money in a way) try salting those coins and dollar bills away instead of spending them.

Another savings trick is to pay cash for everything. It’s old school but it may help you be more conscious of where you’re spending your money and how much you have on hand. Also, anytime you have some change leftover from your cash purchases, set it aside as well!

With cash, you also save your money because you’re not paying interest charges on top of the original purchase price for years on end on your credit cards. Why pay unnecessary bank charges?

Another savings tip comes after you buy something on sale. You know how your receipt often says, “You saved X-amount of dollars on your purchase?” Well, if you want, you can quickly move that same X-amount of dollars into your Savings account right after your shopping trip and actually save the money before you spend it on something you don’t really need. And then you’ve actually saved the money the store said you did!

If you’re starting with me today, you have until end of day on Saturday, January 5, 2019 to make your first deposit. Of course, you can start this anytime of year.

During this first week, think about what you’d like to do with your cash in 365 days. Knowing the why behind your effort and commitment to saving your money will help you stay focussed on your goals.

So, what is your intention for saving this money?

  • Are you saving money to go on a trip?
  • Are you paying for your own upcoming wedding?
  • Are you planning to put the cash towards a downpayment on a house or car?
  • Are you thinking of investing in yourself by going back to school or signing up for a coaching program?
  • Do you want to give this money as a gift to someone else?

Whatever you do, don’t say you’re saving money “for a rainy day” because that’s too vague and you’ll just end up creating a bunch of rainy days.

Save for something you’re excited about having one day. In our culture, we’re all about getting instant gratification but I invite you to train yourself to think beyond instant gratification and strive for the long-term. That’s what savings is all about!

Also, please resist the temptation to withdraw from your Savings Account before the end of the year! Keep it to DEPOSIT ONLY!

Add some Sparkle to this Savings Challenge

Also, as a bonus option, if you want to add some sparkle to your 52-week money savings challenge, you can:

  • Create a Pinterest Board or Vision Board
  • Say affirmations like, “My Savings account is growing and growing each day.”
  • Wear crystal jewellery such as Amazonite, Amber, Bloodstone, Citrine, Garnet, Green Aventurine, Jade, Morganite, Peridot, and Tiger’s Eye to remind yourself of your goals.
  • Use cloves as an essential oil and in cooking because it helps with prosperity.

Please let me know if you’d like to participate in this challenge and we can help each other stay on track. I’m looking forward to celebrating with you at the end of the year next year!

Good luck! Maria

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When Beliefs Become Corrupted

by Maria Koropecky, Wellness Coach

As I was scrolling through my Facebook feed the other day, I came across this classic Mr. Bean video my friend had posted.

It’s from the Merry Christmas Mr. Bean TV episode where Mr. Bean can’t resist playing with a Christmas-themed display at a department store.

Here’s the clip from Merry Christmas Mr. Bean (1992) that I’m talking about.

The familiar Christmas scene starts off in a manger where the father, (Joseph), and mother, (Mary), are shushing the animals so they don’t wake the newborn baby, (Jesus). BTW, shushing animals is funny all by itself.

As more and more characters (who are obviously not from Bethlehem, 2000+ years ago) make their entrance and disrupt the peace and quiet, mayhem ensues and you’ve got a dinosaur, a robot, an angel, and a helicopter, and others, in the mix.

It’s a pretty ridiculous collection of misfits converging on a simple nativity scene, but still, it’s good, old-fashioned Christmas humour at its finest!

Anyway, as I was watching Mr. Bean move the toy figurines around the manger, I thought, as with all good art and comedy, there’s a deeper truth here at play.

Sure, Mr. Bean is like a child playing with his toys where imagination wins over standard rules of logic and historical accuracy — that’s wonderful! We should all dip into that well every now and then.

But underneath all of that, he’s pointing to… of all things… beliefs.

A belief is an idea that a person holds to be true and important.

And this video shows just how easily beliefs can escalate and get out of hand and not make sense anymore and if that’s the case, are they really worth defending so strongly?

Beliefs come up in coaching conversations all of the time. Beliefs, which include the stories we tell ourselves and the way we think, can significantly help us or hinder us in our lives. 

In coaching, we identify beliefs that may be interfering with what our clients are trying to accomplish and then help clear them out of the way. If you become aware of your beliefs, then you can change them for something better.

Beliefs can be very stubborn and to us, in our mind and experience, our own beliefs make perfect, logical sense. The more we repeat them, the more we believe them, and the more evidence we collect to confirm them.

Every now and then we have to take a look at our own beliefs to see if they’re still serving us. Perhaps in childhood, they served a purpose to help us survive, but now in adulthood, they’re interfering with our life and dreams for the future.

If you can take a look at the original belief before it took on a life of it’s own and got distorted and corrupted by other “ideas,” you can consciously choose to keep it or let it go — no tinkering or embellishments needed.

If the basic, original version still works, keep it, but if it no longer holds water and has become too complicated and corrupted, let it go.

The English major in me can see how Mr. Bean’s nativity sketch is actually a clever metaphor for how our personal beliefs get out of hand.

To Mr. Bean, building a nativity scene and adding sheep, army tanks, and Buckingham Palace Guards was a fun game with a beginning, middle, and ending and if you had managed to suspend your disbelief, the story would have been entertaining. But to the grouchy store clerk, the story was absurd and preposterous!

Your idea or belief may start off easy enough, (like a manger scene) and then all of a sudden, more and more stuff gets added to the story, stuff from out of the blue that doesn’t fit with the original intention, (like a helicopter flying overhead) and then as you’re watching this convoluted story unravel, you find yourself saying, “Whaattt? This doesn’t make any sense!”

And that’s how beliefs cause trouble.

As time moves on, more stories get piled up on more stories and some things get edited out and new generations interpret things differently and all of a sudden, 2000 years later, we celebrate the baby Jesus and Santa Claus at the same time.

And then Christmas, a truly sacred holy day, becomes controversial songs, late-night parties, over-indulging in food and drink, stress, buying stuff, and offending all kinds of people who have different religious, cultural, and political beliefs, that drags on for a month, and has completely lost its original message, which was:

a message of hope, joy, renewal, light, love, and peace to all.

If you’re celebrating Christmas this year, take some time to reflect on what it truly means to you.

Merry Christmas, Maria

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Does Life Coaching Really Work?

by Maria Koropecky, Wellness Coach.

Coaching helps you prepare your future on your terms, ~ Maria Koropecky

Coaching isn’t just for athletes anymore

More and more people are hiring coaches like Life Coaches, Executive Coaches, Business Coaches, Career Coaches, Book Writing Coaches, Voice Coaches, Relationship Coaches, Dating Coaches, Spiritual Coaches, Health & Wellness Coaches, and the list goes on and on, to help them improve some aspect of their life.

But does coaching really work?

Yes, I believe coaching works.

Thanks to a study from the International Coach Federation, (ICF), conducted in 2015, there are plenty of statistics that prove the effectiveness of coaching.

4 Results from Coaching

  1. 80% of clients improved their self-confidence
  2. 73% of clients improved their relationships
  3. 72% of clients improved their communication skills
  4. 67% of clients improved their work-life balance.

5 Benefits from Coaching

  1. Increased confidence and self-esteem
  2. Improved communication skills
  3. Better personal relationships
  4. Stronger interpersonal skills
  5. Enhanced work performance.

Also according to this survey:

99% of clients who hire a coach are satisfied and
96% of clients would hire a coach again.

This particular study shows that people are indeed benefitting from working with a coach.

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Does life coaching really work?