If I Owned a Ferrari…

by Maria Koropecky, Spiritual Wellness Coach

Of course I noticed the burnt orange Ferrari in the grocery store parking lot in the midst of all of the pick-up trucks and SUV’s and shopping carts on that sunny, Friday afternoon!

When I see something extraordinary in my day to day life, like a $250,000 sports car, I like to wonder about the people involved and what their lives might be like.

man driving in sports car interior.

This time though, not only did I see the car, but I also got a chance to see the driver/owner before he went into the store. He was an older gentleman and he caught my attention because after he parked his car, he got out and spent a good few minutes just admiring his car from all angles, like he was really pleased with his purchase and the aesthetics of the vehicle.

This observation got me thinking.

If I owned a Ferrari, I’d do my best to take really good care of it!

  • I’d wash the outside of the car weekly;
  • I’d keep the inside clean (no trash and junk cluttering up the space);
  • I’d keep the inside smelling nice like a new car (no junk food leftovers or cigarette butts or old gym bags);
  • I’d put high performance fuel into the tank and would keep it filled well above empty;
  • I’d bring my car to my mechanic for regular maintenance;
  • I wouldn’t drive recklessly (no drunk driving, no distracted driving, no texting while driving, no road rage, no show-off speeding, no stupid stunts);
  • I wouldn’t go into sketchy neighbourhoods;
  • I wouldn’t let strangers drive it; and
  • I also wouldn’t keep my car up on blocks under a tarp hidden in a garage somewhere and only take it out on special occasions, if ever.

And then it occurred to me. Although I don’t own a Ferrari, I have something far more precious and valuable! Something you can’t put a price tag on and it’s not about a status symbol or how much money I make an hour or what my life insurance policy says I’m worth.

I have a unique, special, and a one-of-a-kind, never to be repeated in the history of the Universe, BODY, MIND, and SPIRIT! — I HAVE MY LIFE!

Being alive, right now, is really extraordinary in the grande scheme of things!

I decided in that moment that I was going to be more mindful about how I treat myself and to honour my own existence. I can’t take my life for granted and that’s why I’m so passionate about self-care.

Just like the Ferrari, it’s important for me to cherish myself and do nice things like:

  • being well-groomed and doing an occasional spa treatment;
  • keeping my space clean, organized, and tidy;
  • fuelling my body with nutritious food (and avoiding toxic or poisonous substances);
  • going to see my doctor for regular check-ups;
  • not venturing into potentially dangerous situations;
  • not letting other people speak or think for me because I’m in the driver’s seat of my own life;
  • and not keeping myself as the best kept secret and never going out and enjoying new experiences!

Most of us aren’t going to be high-performance, Olympic athletes like a Ferrari but it’s still really important to practice self-care as if we are the most precious beings in the Universe, because we are — we all are!

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Gratitude is the Secret Sauce of Life!

by Maria Koropecky, Spiritual Wellness Coach

I’m going to start off by saying Thank You and Happy Thanksgiving!

I hope you’re enjoying this time with your family and friends and you’re tasting all of your favourite treats like turkey and mashed potatoes and gravy and pumpkin pie and all of the fixins’ that come with this special holiday.

I’m sharing this day with family-friends and I’m counting my blessings. I have so much to be grateful for in my life! It’s always nice when people invite me over and serve delicious food made with love.

Two men are shaking hands in front of a photocopier to say thank you.

Most of us (especially polite Canadians! 🙂 ) are taught to say “thank you” after we receive something and that’s great. It’s an acknowledgement of an energy exchange.

Usually, the order is:

  1. Someone gives something to you or does something nice for you; and
  2. You receive it; and
  3. You say, “Thanks!”

But today I want to turn that order on it’s head and suggest saying “thank you” first!

Whaaattt???

When we say thank you and are grateful for what we have, it means our needs are being met and therefore, there’s no need to fill anymore. Everything is taken care of and it’s a wonderful position to be in.

Sometimes, though, the things we most need and want seem to be missing. So, the question is: How do we create what we want to have and bring the good things in?

The answer is gratitude! Gratitude is the secret sauce when it comes to having what we want in life!

I’ve been studying the work of Dr. Joe Dispenza and he says, “Gratitude is the ultimate state of receivorship.”

The idea is, be grateful first, as if you already have what you’re asking for, and then you’ll receive it.

I know at first glance that what I’m talking about seems to put the cart in front of the horse and it may even sound like a downright lie. But I promise, once you get the balance right, it’s quite elegant!

Gratitude Spectrum

There’s a sweet spot on the gratitude spectrum that will make asking for what you want and receiving all kinds of gifts and blessings way easier.

On the one end of the spectrum, when you’re asking someone for something (like your parents, spouse, boss, or the Universe) you may be crossing your fingers and hoping and praying and saying, “please, please, please!”

Unfortunately, pleading is not a sustainable or optimal method of manifestation. Sure it works sometimes because people may feel sorry for you, but pulling at people’s strings comes across as really desperate and needy and weak and will more than likely turn people off. It’s also quite manipulative.

As Dr. Joe said in one of his interviews, “hope is a beggar.”

And then on the other end of the spectrum, declaring what you want in no uncertain terms is also a misguided approach. It’s a “Give this to me or else!” expectation. It brings to mind robbing someone at gunpoint and making a demand and scaring the daylights out of people in the process.

Using force comes from a place of fear and hostility and never ends well. And ultimately, being overly demanding never includes gratitude.

Gratitude is the sweet spot

As it turns out, gratitude is the sweet spot between begging and demanding! Gratitude is the secret sauce when it comes to allowing and receiving the good things in life!

Do you know why? Because gratitude is a giving energy! It’s generous and it creates a space for things to happen.

Gratitude is giving thanks that we already have what we’re asking for. Gratitude is coming from a place of faith and trust that what we want and need are already in our magnetic field and are on their way to us and it’s just a matter of time before they show up in physical form.

I know that when I finally receive something I’ve needed, I feel a sense of relief on top of the gratitude. When I feel relief and gratitude, I can relax and know that things are going to work out and I’m OK. Isn’t that way better than worrying and doubting and feeling fear?

Try this next time:

  1. Say thank you and be grateful for what you want to have, do, be, or give;
  2. In your imagination, see yourself having what you want and feel what it would be like to have what you want; and
  3. Receive and have and enjoy what you want!

So the next time you’d like to create something in your life, say over and over again, “I’m so happy and grateful and relieved now that I have….” (especially before you start seeing any evidence that what you’re doing is working) and really feel deep in your heart what it would be like to have what it is you’re asking for and really honestly, sincerely, and authentically, feel grateful in the present moment for everyone and everything that you can think of, including what you want to create.

It’s an amazing feeling!

As you can see, there’s no need to beg, borrow, or steal in our abundant Universe. There’s more than enough for everybody and it all starts with gratitude!

Thank you!

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Give No-Phone Zones A Chance!

by Maria Koropecky, Spiritual Wellness Coach

In 1993, I had a chance to go spring skiing in the Austrian Alps. I remember climbing onboard a tour bus along with several seasoned skiers of all ages on a mild, Saturday morning in April. We left from Munich, Germany and headed toward the “Sound of Music” neighbourhood of Salzburg, Austria. The drive through the chiseled mountains was spectacular! I stared out my window the entire trip and I marvelled at how beautiful the views were, from each bend in the road to the next.

But while I was enchanted by all of the natural beauty around me, the other people who were travelling with me, who had been up and down this road many, many times before, could care less. I was struck by how they were more interested in their Game Boys (remember, this was before everyone had cell phones) than they were in awe-inspiring mountain vistas that other people from other parts of the world would spend big money to see with their own eyes!

That was the first time I noticed that people were choosing technology over real life experiences.

Fast forward to 2018. Over the weekend, I was in a restaurant eating brunch and I noticed a couple sitting together at a small table but she was more interested in her cell phone and a magazine than her husband. He clearly wanted to have a good conversation over breakfast and occasionally she would look up and say a few words and then go back to her activity. I was sad for him.

“Play with me, not your phone!”

play with me not your phone.The next day, a friend of mine posted this telling photo on Facebook. “Play with me, not your phone!” is from a campaign in the U.K. that’s urging parents to put down their cell phones and be present with their kids.

It hurts me to think that kids are feeling neglected because their parents are more interested in something or someone out there more than they are their own kids who are right here.

I don’t know how you feel when someone you’re sitting with is replying to an interrupting text to someone who isn’t even in the room while you’re talking and trying to express yourself, but I sure don’t like it.

And believe me, if kids are feeling ignored in their formative years, this will cause some damage in their future relationships.

Unfortunately, being distracted is nothing new. Cell phones and digital devices are just a modern version of an old problem.

Remember the 1974 song, “Cats in the Cradle” by Harry Chapin?

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man in the moon
“When you coming home, dad?” “I don’t know when”
But we’ll get together then
You know we’ll have a good time then… 

A song worth listening to, for sure!

So, here’s our chance to be more mindful in our relationships and not let technology, (that still has its place in our modern lives), interfere with face-to-face conversations.

Create 3 No-Phone Zones Starting Today!

Take a stand in your relationships and be clear about these three no-phone zones. Tell everyone that in these three situations, cell phones and laptops are not allowed. Instead, try to encourage real, meaningful conversations with all of the people you care about. You’ll be amazed at what people have to say!

1. Meal Times at the Dinner Table

Breakfast, lunch, and dinner offer great opportunities for people to connect. I know many of us are on different schedules and have different food preferences, but that doesn’t mean we can’t share meals with each other. It’s a perfect time to work together as a team preparing meals and cleaning up. It’s also a chance for everyone to tell a story about the topic of the day!

2. Bedroom

People who don’t bring technology into the bedroom — like tv’s, laptops, and smart phones — sleep better. Also, as you’re winding down from your day, this is the perfect time to connect with your partner and have some pillow talk. It’s also a magical time to spend with your kids as you’re putting them to bed.

3. Car

Of course, this is more of a safety issue but you can also use the time in the car to check in with all of the passengers. And if you’re on a long-distance road trip, well that’s a perfect time to get to know each other better!

I hope this blog post inspires you to give the no phone zones a chance!

But if this idea pushes your buttons, ask yourself, what’s that about? What are you trying to avoid? Why do you feel your phone is more important?

Just remember, if you continue to choose your smart phone and technology over the real people in your life, you’re missing out on the beauty that’s around you!

Spiritual Guidance Available

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Listen to my Rainbow Meditation Recording for Free!

by Maria Koropecky, Spiritual Wellness Coach

It’s your lucky day! I have a special gift for you. It’s a free Rainbow Meditation that I’ve recorded that I’d love to share with you.

Here’s the link to the Free Rainbow Meditation on my Crystal Clear Coaching Youtube channel.

I created this Rainbow Meditation to help people relax and manage stress. This recording is also a great complement to any self-care practice.

Feel free to listen to this 21-minute Rainbow Meditation anytime you need to relax, feel better, and share some loving energy with the Universe.

I’d love to read your comments below and please connect with me, Maria, from the Crystal Clear Coaching Group anytime. Peace and blessings to you.

Sobriety and Spiritual Awakening

by Maria Koropecky, Spiritual Wellness Coach

Many people don’t know this about me because I don’t talk about it much, but on August 28, 2018, I celebrated my “Soberthday,” my 2-year anniversary of being sober. Yay!

We all have our reasons to start living sober. It’s a scary proposition to change a habit because habits can be stronger than steel.

For me, it was about my health. I read somewhere that “wine is not a health food” and somehow that was enough to get me thinking. I told myself that at my age, as I’m heading into peri-menopause, I might make things easier for myself if I didn’t complicate my hormonal mix with alcohol.

That was probably a wise decision on my part, but I’ve also learned that there’s way more to living sober than I initially thought. Sober living is also a spiritual quest.

I used to love drinking wine. That was my go-to beverage. There was something about crisp white wines on sunny days and warming red wines on rainy days that kept me going year round.

I liked the romance of drinking wine and the socializing and the dinner parties. I liked the deep conversations that came after a few glasses of “truth serum.” I liked turning off the worrying and the anxiety for a few hours.

But I didn’t like the hangovers and the headaches and the mood swings and the foggy brain and feeling tired all of the time. I didn’t like not being able to drive my car home after a night out or carrying extra body weight or saying mean things to people.

And drinking’s expensive! I shutter to think about all of the money I spent on bottles and bottles over years and years, and on top of that, all of the time I had wasted sitting around and drinking and then recovering the next day.

I’m glad those days are behind me.

keep climbing your mountain anyway.

That’s not to say that suddenly my life became a breeze once I gave up the hooch. Not at all. In a sense, my life actually became harder.

These last few years have been difficult — not because of feeling deprived though — not drinking is relatively easy for me — I haven’t really had any wine cravings to speak of.

And I’ve had my share of opportunities to drink in the last two years. I’ve been to weddings and funerals and even on my worst days…

  • like when a celebrity cancelled a massage appointment within 2 minutes of me starting the session,
  • having my heart broken,
  • my cat dying,
  • loneliness,
  • financial stress,
  • not getting hired after job interviews,
  • more rejection,
  • more disappointments,
  • betrayals from so-called friends,
  • bad weather,
  • all of the recent, crazy world events, etc., etc., etc.,

I didn’t really have to fight the urge to pour myself a glass of wine to help numb the pain or to cope. Somehow it didn’t occur to me to drown my sorrows with wine anymore.

My life has gotten harder because I am now on a spiritual path that is requiring more from me. My new choices are bringing all of the things that I had been covering up and avoiding to the surface of my life and now I have to face them head on so I can finally let them go.

I think the Serenity Prayer, as recited in Alcoholics Anonymous meetings, eloquently touches on the relationship between spiritual truths and sobriety and that’s why it’s so enduring and powerful:

Serenity Prayer
Reinhold Niebuhr (1892-1971)

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
enjoying one moment at a time;
accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
that I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
forever in the next.
Amen.

The Serenity Prayer acknowledges the spiritual truths of acceptance, courage, wisdom, being present, trust, and surrendering to a higher power, and these, among others, are the principles that I am learning to embrace in this new, healthier chapter of my life.

A spiritual life is not necessarily easy (though it can be). Unfortunately, most people, including me, have to struggle through suffering for awhile before we can enjoy our blessings.

The beauty is, there’s a wonderful life waiting for us on the other side of the obstacle course. We just have to keep going.

“You let time pass. That’s the cure. You survive the days. You float like a rabid ghost through the weeks. You cry and wallow and lament and scratch your way back up through the months. And then one day you find yourself alone on a bench in the sun and you close your eyes and lean your head back and you realize you’re okay.”
~ Cheryl Strayed, Brave Enough

If you’ve tried to make healthier choices for yourself, like living sober, but are struggling and suffering on your journey, and aren’t sitting on that “bench in the sun” yet and think it would be easier to give up and go back to your old ways, take a breath and keep climbing your mountain anyway.

“Hold on for one more day,” as the Wilson-Phillips song goes.

Ironically, suffering is life’s way of giving you an opportunity to break the chains from your past so you can move forward. Don’t suffer just to suffer. We are not meant to suffer in this life.

But if you are going to suffer, don’t let it go to waste. Use the suffering to propel you into a better, kinder, more compassionate version of yourself. Let the suffering and the sobriety be part of your spiritual awakening.

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How I Found Out About the Rayner Institute

Editor’s Note: I originally published this article on my Homespunspa blog back on September 19, 2015. You may still see the expired link when you do a search. I’ve decided to re-post the article here on this coaching blog because it fits better on this website.

Over the past few years, many people, who have been looking for a coaching school, have reached out to me because of this blog post and I think that’s great.

If you’re trying to decide which coaching school to sign up with and you’d like to talk to me as well and ask me any questions about the Rayner Institute as a coaching school, please contact me, Maria, by email, anytime.

How I Found Out About the Rayner Institute

by Maria Koropecky, Wellness Coach

Secretly, I’ve wanted to be a life coach for at least a decade but it didn’t seem like it was possible for me. I would not have known where to go to get coaching training even if I had given the thought any serious consideration.

I hired a business coach back in 2005 and I loved our conversations about the spiritual laws of the universe but this particular coach made things more about her than they were about me (as the client) and after a few months, she pushed me away and that was that. We’ve not spoken since and that experience left a bad taste in my mouth about coaches in general.

I’m glad I didn’t give up on coaching forever because of one bad apple. Much has changed in the coaching profession in the past few years and life coaches are being recognized for doing some wonderful work for the people of this planet.

I wish I had had the sense to become a coach sooner but the timing wasn’t right for me. I still had a lot of living to do first before I could embark on this career. Like for example, I had to go to esthetics school in 2010 so I could awaken my healing and nurturing side and learn how to work with people hands on.

Had I just jumped ahead and gone to coaching school at that time instead, (which would have worked for other people), I personally would have been missing some key ingredients for my recipe and my coaching practice would not have flourished. I also would not have opened my mobile spa, which, as you’ll see, is integral to this story.

Anyway, fast forward to the summer of 2014. It was a challenging summer for me personally. My finances were not in good shape and on top of that, my Uncle, who was also my Godfather, died and then my friend from high school had committed suicide. In the bigger picture, you may also recall that in August of that year, Robin Williams committed suicide and Joan Rivers died as well. The world had taken on a serious tone.

Meanwhile, I got a call from a woman who was looking to hire someone to give her 90-year-old mother a manicure. So, I went to the seniors’ care home, just going about my business, and that was the day I met June, her daughter, Carol, and Carol’s husband, Peter. I had no idea how pivotal that day would be for me.

The manicure appointment went well enough that they called me again for another appointment and I started visiting June every five weeks or so. Often, Carol was present also.

In November, Carol mentioned something to her mother about going away for a week to upgrade her coaching training and my ear’s perked up.

Rayner Institute logo.“Did you say coaching???”

As it turned out, Carol is a coach and a facilitator at the Rayner Institute and she said there was a course starting in February, if I was interested. So I took her card and thought about it long and hard.

Eventually, in April of 2015, I took the plunge and enrolled in the Self-Actualized Coaching and Mentoring Program at the Rayner Institute and I have since passed my exams and graduated.

Currently, I’m going through the program again but this time as a Ride-Along where I get to hold a healing space for the new students and support them on their journey as they enter the coaching profession and become certified coaches themselves.

And last night during class, I had my own personal insight that made a big difference in how I see my life. Mark Rayner, the founder of the Rayner Institute, was coaching Carol to show the students the beauty of a transformational and transcendent coaching conversation.

(Normally, I wouldn’t share what goes on in a confidential coaching class but I will have asked for permission from Carol and Mark before publishing this post).

Carol spoke about her mother. She wanted to enjoy the time she spends with her even if it’s just flipping through a catalogue together. She said that 18 months ago, her mother became very ill and she was in hospital in Calgary for a month, and they didn’t give her much time to live. Somehow during that difficult time, they sold her mother’s house and moved her to Victoria.

As I listened to Carol describe the process of moving her mother to the Island where she would be closer to the whole family including her children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren, I marvelled at how those events and decisions also affected me, someone they didn’t even know existed yet. It struck me that an act as personal as caring for an elderly parent could also have so much influence over other people’s lives, known and unknown, as well.

To me, if June hadn’t moved to Victoria and if Carol hadn’t gone looking for a manicurist for her mother and if Carol hadn’t mentioned coaching, then I would not have found the Rayner Institute and I would have probably postponed my dream of becoming a life coach indefinitely.

Suddenly, the timing was right. A lot of things had to happen behind the scenes in order for me to get to this place in my life and my point is, you can’t write this stuff, you can’t script it, and you can’t force it. You just have to follow your heart wherever it wants to go.

Also, and this was my insight last night,

you have no idea whose lives you touch even if you never, ever meet them directly.

That’s the beauty of coaching. You get to touch the lives of people and help them get to where they want to go just by being you and doing what you do. And in turn, the people who are getting coached are also spreading love and kindness and healing energy to the people in their lives and day by day, the world becomes a better place for all of us.

I’m truly grateful for June and Carol for leading me here and for my extraordinary coaching training at the Rayner Institute and now I can pay it forward as a coach to my friends and clients.

Wellness Coach Maria Koropecky.If you’re thinking about becoming a coach, I’d be happy to talk to you about the Rayner Institute. Also, if you’re thinking about hiring a coach, feel free to contact me to make an appointment.

We’re all connected and don’t think that what you’re doing isn’t affecting someone else’s life. The ripples in a pond are endless.

 

Girl Friday at Your Service!

by Maria Koropecky

Did you know the term, “Girl Friday” comes from the movie, His Girl Friday (1940) with Cary Grant and Rosalind Russell?

Here to help.A Girl Friday is:

  • a ‘go to’ girl;
  • someone who will help you get things taken care of;
  • a person you can count on to help you out with your to-do list;
  • someone you can rely on when you are in need of extra assistance;
  • an extra pair of hands on a big project; and
  • someone who acts as a ‘jack of all trades’ and is capable of doing almost anything!

Contact Maria Koropecky today. Services starting @ $22.

Conversations

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Menu Planning; Party Prep; Cooking Food; Serving Food; & Hosting.

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Pick up/drop off; Errands; Long Distance; & Car Washes.

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Travel Companion; Tour Guide; Location Scouting; Packing; Photographer.

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Fruit Picking; Weeding; Snow Shoveling; Gift Wrapping; & Home Staging.

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Let me know if I can help you out in any way!

Follow my 50 Free Talks Challenge!

by Maria Koropecky, Wellness Coach

I’m just putting the finishing touches on my “How to Practice Colourful Self-Care” talk and I have to say, I’m really excited about it! I’ve been thinking about this topic for years and now the pieces of the puzzle have finally come together for me and I’d love to share this talk with you!

“How to Practice Colourful Self-Care” combines everything I know about spa therapy, healing, coaching, spirituality, and wellness!

This talk is chalk full of colourful ideas on how you can sprinkle self-care into your day without indulging in a vice, or spending a fortune on the latest trend, or even if you’re super busy and you don’t feel you have the time in your day – and it all starts with colour!

The Beauty of Colourful Self-Care talk

Now it’s time for me to give my talk to as many people as I can and I’ve decided to start a 50 Free Talks Challenge!

My goal is to give 50 free talks in the next six to eight months — but I need your help. If you know of anyone who might be interested in hearing this talk, please introduce us! Thank you so much!

By the end of the talk you’ll learn:

  1. What is self-care and why it’s important.
  2. What each of the 7 primary colours mean.
  3. A simple system of how to balance your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual needs using the energy of colour.
  4. You’ll also learn one of the secrets of the universe!
  5. And by the end of this “How to Practice Colourful Self-Care” talk, you’ll have an assortment of self-care ideas that you can use each day that will improve your wellness, allow peace of mind, and add quality years to your life.

How does that sound?

In my experience, practicing self-care on a daily basis is super important! But how do you choose which self-care activity is best for you to do at this moment?

In “How to Practice Colourful Self-Care” I talk about a colourful system that will help you get started!

By identifying and understanding how colours relate to your physical, mental, and emotional needs, you can easily perform a self-care activity that will help you address a weak spot and restore yourself to equilibrium.

You’ll get ideas for each of the different areas of self-care including:

  1. Aromatherapy – Working with your sense of smell to feel better.
  2. Crystal Therapy – Using colourful rocks, gemstones, and crystals for inspiration.
  3. Spa Therapy – Applying natural treatments on the body to help with relaxation.
  4. Nutrition – Choosing foods by colour and nutritional value to fuel your body.
  5. Music & Sound Therapy – Listening to music and sounds to generate an emotional response.
  6. Healing with Nature – Interacting with the natural world, including plants and animals.
  7. Medical Check-Ups – Visiting health practitioners and specialists.
  8. Athletic Activities – Doing specific exercises and sports.
  9. Financial Self-Care – Managing your money.
  10. Spiritual Self-Care – Finding meaning, being present, and expanding your awareness.
  11. Meditation – Turning your focus within to feel calm and centered.
  12. Affirmations – Deliberately repeating positive words to create change.
  13. Fashion – Wearing colourful clothing and jewellery to change your mood.
  14. Healing Space – Creating your own sanctuary with pleasing colours.
  15. Relationships – Improving your relationships with yourself, friends, family, co-workers, and neighbours.
  16. Creative Play – Letting yourself be silly.

If you’d like to dive deeper into the colours and learn more about practicing self-care, consider hosting this “How to Practice Colourful Self-Care” talk and inviting me to speak at your next event!

Which of the first 50 free talks will you attend?

Wellness Coach Maria Koropecky.

Don’t Lose Your Heart!

by Maria Koropecky, Wellness Coach & Spiritual Teacher

On February 13th, I had the joy of attending “The Power of Your Words” presented by Caroline Myss at the University of Victoria.

When I woke up that morning, I had no idea I was going to be at UVic by the end of the day. It was a completely unexpected and welcomed surprise. To me, it was a little miracle how everything came together and interestingly enough, Caroline lightly touched on that idea in her talk.

In essence, she said each day is a new day, a new start, a blank slate, and we get to choose our reality, and what we experience, and it starts with the words we use. We have no idea what the day will bring so why not nudge it in a good direction with our words.

I love that Caroline Myss said, “Words are our Magic Carpet!” I must be choosing some pretty good words these days!

I’m grateful to my best client and friend Linda for gifting me the ticket!

It was a big deal for me to go and I actually wore a dress, heels, and make-up to the event. I also decided to wear my rose quartz heart Christmas tree ornament necklace and rose quartz bracelet because it was the day before Valentine’s Day. More on that later…

Rose Quartz & Rainbows.
“Don’t Lose Your Heart!”

Seeing Caroline Myss in person (from the balcony) was significant for me. Her book, Sacred Contracts, which I read around 2002-2004, explained so much to me spiritually and I even made my own set of Archetype cards from her list.

But more than that, I feel like I’ve been on a deep and profound spiritual journey of awakening and for the last year or so, it has been intense. Lots of crying, lots of letting go, lots of shedding my old ways. To help me through this process, I’ve been studying the work of Eckhart Tolle.

I’ve been searching for answers to the big questions of life and it’s been very emotional and some people told me that I was depressed and that I needed to talk to a therapist. Caroline Myss explained that people often confuse depression with spiritual crisis but we don’t have the language to express and articulate what’s going on with us, so the depression gets the attention, but not the spirit or soul. Both depression and spiritual crisis can show up similarly, but if you sense you need to find the meaning and purpose to your life, then that’s a clue that you might be having a spiritual crisis this time.

I thought, yes, that’s what I’ve been going through this past year: a spiritual crisis.

That’s good news!

Here’s my opportunity to push through into a whole new dimension of living life and I’m really excited about this breakthrough!

Instead of letting this spiritual heartbreak be my excuse to keep me unconscious, I’m going to use it to help me awaken into consciousness.

That’s the message that I keep hearing from spiritual teachers. Eckhart Tolle says the most important thing we can do for humanity is to be conscious and present.

And Caroline Myss explained that back in the 1960’s, with the introduction of nuclear weapons that can potentially destroy us, “we unleashed a darkness into the world.” However, around the same time, the world religions were also stepping up their presence. The East and the West were talking to each other and big changes were taking place. There was a counter force to the darkness that was also emerging. It’s like two sides of the same coin, one balances the other. In the midst of this darkness, there is also light.

At this point of the talk, this is where Caroline Myss really lit up! I don’t know if it was the stage lighting or something else, but I saw violet light surrounding her. It was like a purple, misty shadow trailing behind her movements. Violet is the most spiritual colour. It’s associated with the Crown chakra, our connection to the Divine, so I knew she was speaking Spiritual Truth.

That’s what we’re called to do. As generations living in a dark, nuclear age, we’re called to be the light!

This reminds me of Bruce Cockburn’s song, “Lovers in a Dangerous Time,” where he says, “You’ve got to kick at the darkness till it bleeds daylight.” We are lovers in a dangerous time — lovers in the sense of bigger picture lovers of humanity, not necessarily romantic couples, as I once thought.

But how do you fight the good fight and shine your light when you’re living in fear and pain?

Caroline says there’s no archetype for people who have been wounded but have somehow moved forward, yet still have remained vulnerable. It’s an interesting mix — wounded, vulnerable, and strong. We’ve all been wounded one way or another, on a personal level and on a global level, and we’re really good at re-telling our victim stories over and over again.

But we can’t wallow in the victim role anymore!

Caroline said “Coddling doesn’t serve anybody.” We’re past the point of coddling each other through the pain. I’ve decided I’m not going to entertain those victim stories, either from myself, or my coaching clients, or my friends, anymore.

The better question is, “what strength is emerging” or “what is the gift?” It’s not about the adversity, or our history, it’s about how we respond from here that counts.

And this is what I got from Caroline’s talk: It’s time to retire those victim stories and poor word choices and step up in this critical time in history. Crazy world leaders, missile warnings, and natural disasters are the wake up calls!

It’s time we take our head out of the sand, or put down those distracting devices, or resist those numbing addictions, and instead, be present!

If you feel like you’ve been going through a spiritual crises, as I have, and you’ve been called to shine your light in this world and do something really amazing, then do it! The only one who is stopping you is you. You are in charge of your reality and it’s up to you! The words you say to yourself and out loud will create your path. Choose them thoughtfully!

And that’s exactly what I’m doing starting today. Hearing Caroline Myss speak affirmed in my heart that I’d like to join her and Eckhart Tolle and many others and be a spiritual teacher as well. I’m open to working with a mentor, if you know anybody!

And I’d like to put forth a new archetype, that I like to call Green Leaders, that represents people who have been through the trenches but have also emerged as conscious and awakened leaders with heart. Just because you’ve been through it, doesn’t give you the excuse to be miserable, and mean, or to fall back into unconsciousness. Let the adversity be your doorway to enlightenment.

Let’s define the Green Leader archetype together so we can enjoy Mother Earth for many, many thousands more generations to come! What do you think, Caroline Myss?

The title of this post is, “Don’t lose your heart.” That’s my message for today. Although things may seem bleak, remember, we’re still in the game. Don’t lose faith. Prayers are always heard and answered and miracles happen every day. Caroline finished her talk by praying, “May God hover over us.”

As I was leaving the auditorium, I grazed over something with my shoe. I looked behind me and it was my pink quartz heart necklace on the floor. I quickly retrieved it and as I was picking it up, a woman who saw me said, “Don’t lose your heart!” and she was stunned a little by what she said, so she said it again, “Don’t lose your heart!” and I said, “Noooooo!”

Talk about the “power of words!”

I believe this anonymous woman was speaking on behalf of the Universe in that moment. “Don’t lose your heart, Green Leaders!”

Thank you anonymous woman in the auditorium, and thank you Linda for the ticket, and thank you Caroline Myss for coming to Victoria! Come back anytime!

4 Curious Traits of Leaders

by Maria Koropecky, Wellness Coach

Happy New Year!

Because it’s January, the first month of the calendar year, I’m inspired to write about leaders and more specifically, four curious traits of leaders that may surprise you.

As a wellness coach, healer, and facilitator, I work with Green Leaders as they grow into their potential and I recently wrote a blog post, “25 Signs You’re an Up and Coming Green Leader.” Hopefully, you can relate to many of the 25 signs.

To further inspire you to be the leader you were born to be, here are four more traits to add to the list.

1. Many leaders are born in the month of January.

2. Many leaders are the first born in their sibling birth order.

3. Many leaders are above average in height and/or are considered tall when standing next to others.

4. Many leaders are left-handed.

Olympic Torch 2010 near Victoria, BC.
Four Curious Traits of Leaders.

Let’s talk more about these traits.

1. Many leaders are born in the month of January.

Because of how the school year is set up, kids born in January are often more mature and athletic than their younger classmates. Being the oldest in your class by up to 11 months in your early years can make a big difference in terms of development and can translate into lifelong leadership abilities down the road. One study suggests that even the NHL favours players who are born in the earliest months of the year – most notably, Wayne Gretzky, born on January 26th.

2. Many leaders are the first born in their sibling birth order.

First born children are more likely than their siblings to become leaders because they already have many years’ of practice on their belts. They’re also used to being looked up to by their younger siblings, both literally and figuratively, and they’re the first to go out into the world and report back to the others what they’ve learned. They also tend to be more responsible and protective in nature. They’re also known for being bossy.

3. Many leaders are above average in height and/or are considered tall when standing next to others.

Have you ever noticed that many leaders are quite tall? Being “head and shoulders above the rest” allows visionary leaders to see above the crowds and to focus ahead into the distance. Also, being tall allows the group to see the leader in the crowd from afar, as well.

Oddly, it has been observed that in 67% of ALL U.S. presidential elections, the taller candidate has won the popular vote, even before the days of televised debates.

If you look at evolutionary psychology, this makes sense. We may prefer taller leaders because our ancestors used height as one of the cues of physical formidability and when our ancestors had a big, tall, resourceful, strong, and formidable friend on their team to help them with their survival (like procuring food, shelter, and territory), they had a relative advantage against the elements and a better chance of living another day.

4. Many leaders are left-handed.

Although lefties make up 10% of the world’s population and have been historically shunned, being left-handed can have its advantages. Left-handed people tend to be more “right-brained” and therefore more creative. Growing up left-handed in a world that has been designed for the logical, right-handed among us, can be quite frustrating and challenging – just try using the wrong scissors – but this lefty trait can also make you more likely to think outside-the-box, to see things from a different perspective, to be more intuitive, and become a visionary leader.

What do you think of this list? Which of these traits do you have? As for me, I’m slightly taller than average for women and I’m left-handed.

Olympic Torch 2010 near Victoria, BC.
4 Curious Traits of Leaders.

These four curious traits of leaders come from my own observations and research and aren’t carved in stone. Most likely, you won’t have all four – though that’s possible – and if you do, please tell me, I’d love to meet you and ask if you consider yourself a leader as well.

I’m just offering this list to help you recognize your inherent leadership abilities and to see yourself as a natural-born leader (in case you don’t – yet).

If you by chance don’t have any of these particular leadership traits, don’t worry, leaders come in all shapes and sizes. Good leadership skills can be learned. These four traits just give you a bit of a head start.

Regardless of where you’re starting from now, whether you have zero, one, two, three, or all four of these curious leadership traits, and if you’d like to be a better leader in general, please contact me. I’d love to be your wellness coach and mentor.